CM, thanks for this post. The thing is, neither Dustin nor I were really looking for anything serious when we met. He was still in the middle of a break up and I pretty much gave up on guys having any sort of honest intentions. I was disappointed when he had his issues to be sure. After all it was just another guy who couldn't handle being attracted to me as a person, not just a kinky curiosity.
The difference is - he came back. He actually thought through his fears and got some advice from his brother, read a book, and tried to work out his feelings. He's apologized to me and is taking things as slowly as I want.
He has his faults (so do I). He is trying though. For me, this is the first time in almost 2 years that I am guaranteed that my date will actually be at the movies when I get there. He hasn't ditched me to talk to my (more attractive) trans* friends. He doesn't insist that I only see him at night and swing 'round the back (or wait outside until he gets a good look at me first).
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