[Vanillas]

I have HAD a number of fetishes, including watching my girlfriend get fucked by another man, having a woman force me to suck another man's cock, watching two girls fight, and having a woman piss on my face. I have not actually realized any of these save the last one - and even that one only once. I think the fact that they would likely never be carried out was part of the attraction. But, while each of these fantasies had me in its grips -and they ran serially- IT was in control and, moreover, was the ONLY way I could get sexually excited (which, as I understand it, is a major hallmark of a fetish). Presently I have no active fetishes. I do not experience that driven, out-of-control, compulsive side of sexuality. However, the trade-off seems to be a noticeable diminution of sexual desire.