As usual your soulmate (?) Fran came up with the correct flags. Why would someone decide to return ? He wanted to 'chill', needed to 'sort things out'. RIIIIIGHT.With probably no one else to turn to, and knowing you as he does,kind hearted and once smittin with him,of course he'll come back. The rent is cheap, the option of sex could be on the menu, and all while he'll be looking out to where and who he could be with next.
I believe that if he had the option with someone else ,he'd go for it.
True, most of us don't know all the fine details, but most of us have been around the block, so to speak.
I'm sorry to say that I often find people with gall, have an easy time at taking advantage of others when neccessary. He has a neccessity.
Only you can make that decision which will make your life the best it can be.
I only hope you can get through this without injury of ANY kind. Please let others know of threats, arguments, things said in anger or without forethought. You may even want to keep a tape recorder of some conversations. Horrible life to live like that isn't it? But remember the advice you gave to others. And don't ever forget what has happened to others you have never met. I'm sure he'll get wind of the advice you are getting and he will try to disuade you. If he's sincere, he'll pick up and leave on his own. Once he's settled(at least six months after) with work,a place of his own and his 'thoughts' together once again, then see if he comes around as a beau or jackass.
Sorry if you did not want to hear that, but I've seen it done before to both sexes. Good luck and practice safe living.
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