View Single Post
  #4  
Old 04-26-2009
CreativeMind's Avatar
CreativeMind CreativeMind is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: A place that's sunny & warm
Posts: 371
CreativeMind is a jewel in the roughCreativeMind is a jewel in the roughCreativeMind is a jewel in the roughCreativeMind is a jewel in the rough
Default

LOL I just put up a post responding to some comments you made in another thread where I totally agreed with you, where I was totally supportive...and yet this is one where I DON'T agree with you at all. Well, I guess that back and forth nature of opinions is what makes life interesting and meeting new people and sharing ideas!

Are long distance relationships hard to maintain? Sure. Absolutely. They take a lot of dedication and commitment since you actually have to work at making time for each other on the phone, on the Net, or whatever, to stay in touch with each other. Make no mistake, a long distance relationship can be quite a challenge and draining unless you have that particular kind of stamina to stay on top of it.

Now, is honesty and trust an issue as well? Since you're actually not "there" to face the other person on a daily basis? To look for any tell-tale signs whether they're being fully honest with you about certain things, or if they're even seeing someone behind your back? After all, if you're dating long distance and not living in the same town...where you can just go over to the other person's apartment to talk to them (or outright confront them) it's pretty darn easy to say one thing, and then hang up the phone or log off the computer and go out and cheat around. Yep, there's a very real danger there that can lead to some very hard heartbreak.

On the other hand... I've been in some long distance relationships, one of which got as far as us nearly becoming engaged and setting a wedding date and all sorts of very nice things. And it didn't end because of the long distance, but because of other issues that would break up any normal couple that were living close to each other. However, that said, things were going well and they did get that far because -- yes, this is pretty obvious -- at SOME point you obviously DO have to meet each other face to face. You DO have to see how your chemistry is together in person, and you do want to experience how comfortable you feel with each other IN PERSON and doing all sorts of things. I won't deny that.

But I disgree with much of your premise that it's all "make believe" and that real emotions and real intents and real commitments are somehow not at work. And that's because I know. I've been there myself and I WILL swear to how hard both she and I worked at our relationship and how much effort and time and sincere emotions we put on the line.

And truth be told, in some ways the long distance between us didn't hold us back -- in certain ways it actually helped to BRING OUT many different issues and concerns that we both had, and the long distance helped us to look at each other that much stronger and deeper. Simply because being in a long distance relationship makes you stop and say "Hmm, is all this effort and time and traveling back and forth REALLY worth it? Is this REALLY what I want?" Personally, in my life, I've found that my long distance relationships helped me to come to some conclusions much quicker than when I was dating a local person, where you were more easy going about things.

But like I said, to each his own. Like anything in life...as is the case with ANY romantic relationship...I really do think it depends on the couple themselves and THEIR feeling for each other. No two couples are always the same, the way I see it...
Reply With Quote