Now what?
I posted this
http://forum.transladyboy.com/showthread.php?t=1512 awhile back. I think perhaps there could be some additions to this, so I'll start with actually meeting a trans*women.
1) Post/send pictures of... YOUR FACE. Your cock will only get "face time" if everything works out. Remember, we have one of those, there is no mystery in it for us.
2) First contact should not assume future sexual contact. "Hey ur hawt, I wanna dooooo u!!!" Depending on the mood may get a giggle.
3) Understand that *ghasp* we have lives and jobs (or looking for one). A delay in contact is just that - a delay.
4) Don't get too demanding. Lots of times guys come on strong and promise the sun and the moon. They seem to want things to progress really quickly and push for more faster. Then it turns out they were ina hurry because they had "an itch" to scratch, are getting married next week, have a girl-friend that's gunna be out of town, etc. So I think most of us have a healthy aversion to really rushed situations.
I know that #4 can be tough when a truly honestly interested guy is trying to start something with a trans*woman. It may seem like you are either being punished for the "wrongs" of other guys or your excitement at finally contact a Trans*woman (who doesn't expect payment) is being misread. But for us, it can be a hard-won defense.