[Vanillas]

Thanks to those who have answered my thread to date. For them and for those who might follow I see I need to clarify something. When I offered my unconscious fear and its compensatory sexual fantasies as an example of the author's thesis in practice it was just that, an example. I cited it because it was mine and I was thus able to personalize it. But unconscious feelings of omnipotence, the attendant fear of hurting a sexual partner and the need to compensate by having or imagining a partner strong enough to allay that fear is only one of many sexual gestalts cited by the author. Others included: 1) A woman who unconsciously believed herself physically unattractive needing to create exhibitionistic fantasies in which she was the center of worshipful attention; 2) A man who felt overburdened by the pressures and demands of his many social contacts and his resulting need to maintain total anonymity during sex, even to the point of hiding his face; and 3) A young woman who felt totally ignored at work by a series of male bosses and yet with each was able to seduce him into a private tryst. Thus was she able to triumph over her feelings rejection and unworthiness.