Well, as some of us like to write... we belong to the GL(b)....t "community". I have found some of the most supportive people among gay guys and lesbians. I have also found some of the most daft assumptions from within that community.
On one hand the idea that Trans*women are gay guys that couldn't handle being gay, wanted to have an easier time picking up guys, are CD/TVs that want the fantasy full-time is common. It also erases lesbian trans*women and gay trans*men. I can without doubt state (having been someone who ID'd as a gay man) they are totally unrelated. If anything, being a gay guy (even a REALLY sissy one) is better understood and accepted than being trans*. Being trans* has complicated hooking up so much that the idea I did this to get laid is laughable.
If we look at Radical Feminists dogma re: trans* we open up yet another batch of poorly formed theories and assumptions about why we do this. Rather than listen to what trans*folk have to say (or for that matter what the people who date us) we have people using political/social theories telling us that we don't know our own lives and they have all the answers.
I get the anger Hank. My fella's gay brother pulled the same crap a few months ago. Perhaps because the Trans* umbrella is so large and includes both men and women as well as people who dress up for sexual kink or to express their "inner woman/man" confusion is bound to happen. The anger happens when those on the outside try pin their "observations" on my body.
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