On a similar note,
My friend Christine was sexually assaulted this past summer. I mentioned it here and also on my blog. Well, her boy-friend left her last month for greener (non-trans) pastures and she lost her job. I have been in Florida the past few days attending her funeral. The sad fact is, external violence pales compared to the violence we inflict on ourselves.
From internalizing the messages that a Trans* body isn't and can't be beautiful to allowing ourselves to stay in abusive relationships because that's what we deserve or all we can get. Going through life is hard on all of us. Combine that with the real need to keep 18+ years of your life secret from the majority of people you know, the message that "love" for you is only temporary and hinged on the convenience of another, that you are a diversion away from "normal" sex - an exotic treat, but never the real thing. Ugh I'm done now.
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