Strict definitions are usually based on abstract boundaries between artificial categories. Thus rigid expectations of what is and what ought to be are often dashed by reality.
For instance people tend to think of the sexes in terms of binary opposition but the reality is that a certain percentage of the population is congenitally inter-sexed. Gender is even more complex. In India there are at least three genders and in I have heard that is a rather low number in comparison to other cultures. Sexual orientation is even more complicated as human being can be sexually attracted to almost anything. Shoes, Latex, Men, Women, Eunuchs, Trans- _ _ _ _ , Post op, Pre op, and the list goes on endlessly.
Sex, Gender and Sexual Orientation also operate independently of one another. I was once suddenly kissed by a genetic female who was F2M but often mistaken for a lesbian when in fact she was attracted to gay men.... which she thought I was, but actually I am a bit middle gendered.... Well it was all a bit awkward but we got through it.
It is best to meet life with the expectation that it is far more complex and wonderful than you could have ever imagined. I think Dr. Seuss actually said it best
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Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
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