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Originally Posted by guest
don't come in here and tell me not to do it because you think i'm a confused person and
will end up having an outbreak and hurting the girl because that is definitely NOT the problem.
i am absolutely sure that if i were to meet a tgirl for escort purposes, i would be as polite, gentle, and nice as possible.
maybe it's the thought of how she'd treat me that scares me
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Well, given that the question is "should I or shouldn't I?", I think most people here will be nice and remain more focused on you being a virgin and discussing the emotional ramifications of your "first time"
versus debating the more gossipy question "Do you think pal is gonna freak out in the room and hurt the girl?!?" So, I wouldn't worry about that. I don't think anyone here is looking to judge you or make any type of accusations against your character.
Then again, to address that point (since you did bring it up), only YOU know your REAL emotional state as you go down this path, pal. Only YOU know how it REALLY makes you feel deep down inside to think about your first time and what you WANT it to be like. And only YOU can really imagine how you'll
actually react once you are all alone in a room with this other person. Plus, I
could argue that since you did bring up this idea of an "outbreak" or "hurting the girl in the room" that you were subconsciously -- and now even consciously -- thinking about SAFETY as an issue overall.
However, perhaps not just for her, but just as important for YOU.
So, yes, wondering how she'll treat you or what
could happen, once you are all alone in a room with her, IS something you should consider. But that also brings us to
REALITY CHECK 3: going into ANY situation involving an escort or hooker (or "sex worker", to put it more politely for anyone who objects to me using escort and hooker side-by-side) you should ALWAYS keep your eyes open about your own safety.
Sure, of course you have to worry about STDs. That's a given. If we all have to give you a lecture and break out the stats about communicable diseases and having sex with a total stranger, then we're in for a loooooooong thread. But I'm sure you've heard THAT all before.
I'm talking about something different though. I'm saying you should also keep in mind how you'll actually feel once you are literally naked -- butt naked for all the world to see -- and all alone with this other person, a total stranger that you've just met, and the sheer amount of trust that HAS to exist when you find yourself in that compromising situation. YOU need to feel every bit as comfortable as she does, and I think you're recognizing that now. Which is why your mind is racing back and forth over certain things.
Plus, IF you choose to be with a professional escort and you have the choice between in-call and out-call service, you want to feel safe about where you're going OR you want to feel safe with having a total stranger visiting you --
especially if she brings along some sort of bodyguard or a "driver" who will sit in a car outside, whose job it is to remain close by and able to rush in, in case she suddenly feels unsafe or uncomfortable.
So, it's okay to be a "nice guy" and say you want her to be comfortable. That's very gentlemanly of you. Just keep in mind that door swings BOTH ways and you should feel safe too. ESPECIALLY for your "first time", where you want to be completely focused on the
experience and focused on the moment and actually enjoying it, and NOT having part of your brain worrying about whether your wallet is going to get picked or someone is going to suddenly come barging in on you.