Monica Roberts (who I think rocks) on her blog (transgriot) addresses this issue for Valentine's Day. One thing that she mentions that has me thinking is how Trans*women contribute to the generally crap dating environment. Lots of us (myself included) have taken some serious blows to our self-esteem, lost friends and family in the process of transition that we are willing to accept as partners guys who are pretty pathetic.
I dated a guy for 6-7 years. He saw me through my transition and was all I could have dreamed of. We had an open relationship with a couple rules because he traveled for work and he figured I should experiment sexually. Anyway, when he got his coworker pregnant and decided he wanted to be a dad we ended it. For the past 6 months I have gotten emails from him wanting me back to be essentially his mistress. His last email bluntly stated "Well you know this what you girls dream about. You get to pretend to have a man and don't need to fool anyone into thinking you are a GG." He followed up with essentially a statement that not only should I want this, I should be grateful since it's the best offer I'll have.
Why bring this up? Well I showed this to some friends I know online and they agreed with him. They would jump at the chance. They know him and think he's a catch and I'm being too demanding and unrealistic. So, in no small part we gals set this up for ourselves.
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