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Originally Posted by randolph
Dear Bionca,
Hot clothes can be a statement of how you feel about yourself.
You are sugar, spice and everything nice
but how many are going to say howdy if your looking dowdy?   |
I always look presentable and appropriate for my environment. I just don't get any "kick" out of what I'm wearing. I have never had to stop my daily commute to "blow a load" because of my clothes.
I've heard t-gals say stuff like "I always liked to wear skirts/play with dolls/hang out with girls as a kid - so I guess I should have been born a woman" I think this may be true in the other direction. I did that stuff because I understood myself to be a girl and was picking up social messages that those were the things I was supposed to do.
The fact is, there are LOTS of Trans*women who are "butch" because that's how they are as women. Lots of Trans*men who are a little fey. Likes/dislikes, clothing choices, make-up, occupation etc etc have zero connection to gendered identity.
For the record, I never had a feeling of "release" or gratification from dressing up. I literally decided that my body had developed to a point that I couldn't hide the changes and figured it was time to get some clothes that fit the new shape I was developing. I got some tips and pointers from a few Drag Queens, cut their advice in half and reduced as needed to function in the world as a woman and not an entertaining parody of one.