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Old 01-06-2009
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Originally Posted by Bionca View Post
Any thoughts?
I saw the title of this thread and thought you might be having some stomach problems after an over indulgent holiday period!

Seriously though - and thinking positively - you need to have a talk with this guy about his behaviour. You write "One-on-one he's swell and I think he likes me" and whilst you don't say anything specifically I guess you must like him somewhat to have got this far.

Previous posts pretty much cover the ground speculating why he should behave like this: insecurity about having a relationship with a trans girl; drunkenly and tactlessly thinking he's being funny; egged on to join in with what he thinks is acceptable "gay" banter; revealing a sadistic streak and the truth of how he sees you. It could be any of these or a mixture of them - he wouldn't be the first guy to say hurtful and stupid things towards his partner!

You should find the moment to have the conversation with him and let him know what you felt. If he's not willing to talk about it, or can't see how his behaviour was hurtful, then yes - dump him and move on. But you never know, maybe something good will come of talking and the relationship will be strengthened and grow.

As WS said - "The course of true love never did run smooth".
(Well that might be being excessively positive!)
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