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Originally Posted by ila
You want respect but you aren't willing to give any. You seem to have a vendetta against transvestites. To get respect you must give others respect.
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Well, I don't mean to put words into anyone's mouth, but in defense of Limegirl -- and she can correct me if I'm wrong here -- but based on her series of posts, what she seems to be saying is somewhat similar to thoughts that Bionca has long argued in her postings as well.
Namely, there's a big difference between being taken seriously as a transgender and being treated as a real person (with real feelings and being shown real respect) versus acting as a pure sex object or being seen as a pure fantasy object by guys who just want a one-time thrill, after which they will toss you aside. Or as Bionca has often lamented, won't even sit with you for coffee for fear of being seen with you. Which is just the most insane thing, since no matter what people are still people underneath it all, so there should be some accountability for treating a fellow human being with respect.
But again, in her defense, Limegirl usually points out that she's talking about hookers visibly strutting their stuff in the street or those TS who are overtly playing up their sexuality (by working sex sites and such) versus those transgenders who are genuinely trying to find a workable daily life, and who are hoping to find acceptance for who they really are inside as a person.
But hey, that's just the way I've read the posts. Then again, that's what I think makes this site and these message boards worthwhile because rather than everyone just talking about sex, sex, sex, you can find people here who are genuinely trying to express themselves or even find themselves and make new friends. So, if someone says something or phrases something a bit awkward from time to time, I think it's okay to just politely ask "Did you mean
this or did you actually mean
that" to try and clarify things.