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I read your second post before I read the first. Thanks for agreeing with me.
Understated and over simplified; a relationship with sex but no respect, honor or commitment can be erotic but not rewarding. A relationship with respect, honor, commitment, closeness, caring and some body contact but without sex can be rewarding and even erotic.
I sometimes have been asked here,"which way to your bedroom Fran?"
Making a judgement about the person asking, I say, "through the church."
It always seems to "deflate" the question. (amoung other things.)