With all due respect, and I mean that, I think the issue here is the understanding of what it means to be a "friend." A genuine friend wouldn't be the cause of any of what zoomrolf describes in his posts in this thread. Thus, the only conclusion ones can draw are either that a) these are not friends, but marginal acquaintances (in which case, zoomrolf must decide whether having them is more important than living as he pleases), or b) zoomrolf's embarrassment has its source in zoomrolf's own inhibitions, and the "friend" problem is, in essence, a cover.
I pass no judgment on which it might be, given that I do not know any of the actors involved, and I pass no judgment on the choices made as a result.
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