I agree that exact labels tend to be tricky ? based on what you write, I?d think you?re probably on level 4 of Harry Benjamin?s scale (
http://www.genderpsychology.org/tran...njamin_gd.html). Based on my experience I believe that Benjamin?s scale is fairly spot on in its attempt to quantify the different levels of transgenderism, however, take it with a grain of salt.
Most importantly is, of course, to be who you are ? and I can guarantee you that you are far from alone :-)
Best regards
Hank