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Originally Posted by Leckie

Hmm, I don't mean to offend anyone, that's for sure..

Call it a cultrual difference?

This is not a cultural difference, it is a matter of whether you choose to use respectful language that acknowledges the rights of other to determine their self-identification.

Originally Posted by Leckie

The question is basically should I wait until I'm sure about myself and my friends or should I just start to explore and figure it out as I go along.

I think it is impossible for anyone to give useful, specific advice on a question such as yours without knowing the parties involved. As a general rule, though, I suggest you do what feels best and makes sense to you WITHOUT worrying about friends. If they are true friends, they will accept your decision.