[EdwardSinclair]

I have tried to catch up with this thread:

It's clear this thread has brought up several sensitive issues that I have seen in other threads throughout this forum, and it gets old fast! There is absolutely no way we can educate everyone, and trying, just feels like a waste of positive energy!

I just can't stand seeing people bashing each other!

Having said that, the OP Dean needed help, and without judging anyone, here is a list of things that I think severely hurt a relationship (I have done them all at least once, so I am not pointing a finger):

Insensitivity
Gross disrespect for other peoples feelings, by doing and saying things without caring if it will hurt them or not! It gives a sense that you don't care about that person...

Lies
This is very important, because when we lie to others we also lie to ourselves! We limit maximum enjoyment of an activity out of guilt, and in the end we are the greatest losers! Furthermore, you fail to communicate how you feel, creating a barrier and distancing yourself from others! This may or may not give rise to Betrayal...

Betrayal
Gross misconduct, angels have been sent to hell for this, and hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! Hardly any relationship will recover from this, and if it does, trust will always be an issue! Probably why some prefer to kiss and not tell...

Lack of Communication
Communication is the basis of a relationship, you may have sex, but when you are tired of it, you need a companion you can talk to. The lack of communication is detrimental to getting to know someone, or letting them know how you feel. It is aggravated by fights, and those times you don't want to talk out of spite...

I want to conclude with:
Be respectful to others, as you'd like them to be respectful to you!