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Originally Posted by guiltydreamer
I overlooked this post previously. You are absolutely spot on with this advice. My problem has been secrecy and lack of communication and indeed I have fallen deep, deeper into the abyss. My moral compass long ago ceased to function and I have badly betrayed the person most dear to me. The sad irony is that on discussing and admitting my cheating ways and sex with transsexual partners, my wife is most destroyed by the lies, dishonesty and betrayal rather than the infidelity itself. Whilst she is shocked by my sexual behavior, she is tolerant and understanding of same sex and third sex attraction. If only I had summoned the courage and respect for her to admit to my feelings some time ago, perhaps my marriage could have been saved.
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Yes, it's a sad fact that not only do gbltq people have to "come out of the closet" so do a lot of guys who are straight but still find transsexual women attractive.
It's all because of the society we live in today. To many people have their minds closed off to the reality that gender isn't binary, and nor is it determined by ones genitalia.
And just because one man is only attracted to women with penises and no other variation does not make him gay or bi. It's because he's still only attracted to women.
But many people like to see in black and white. It's either one or the other. And won't accept reality as a full spectrum of colors.
I follow Harvey Milks philosophy on this matter. Everyone every where needs to come out for who they are. Even if it's just to their family and loved ones.
Once everyone knows at least one of these minorities is actually a human being with feelings just as theirs. Than that's when change will happen.
Wow... I so digressed. Sorry.
But anyways, always be honest with the ones you love. Because if they love you for who you are, than they will love everything about you. Even your flaws.
Not saying being attracted to trans girls is a flaw, but I think you get my point.