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Originally Posted by EdwardSinclair
You are welcome!!
I understand that it can be a tough one to call! I have had bad experiences in the past, right when I started joining communities, but my current partner (my wife) is way more open about these things than even I am, so I have not found a problem with her thus far! It did take some adjusting though...
So even if the person you are with doesn't accept it, later you will find one who does... because if someone loves you they must accept you the way you are!
If you settle for less your life will suck daily, because of the secrets you keep from each other, filling a huge hole or gap between you, that eventually gets so huge that you can't cross over without falling into a deep abyss, and you may end up hurting that person you love instead, because even hidden things have a way to surface in the end!
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I overlooked this post previously. You are absolutely spot on with this advice. My problem has been secrecy and lack of communication and indeed I have fallen deep, deeper into the abyss. My moral compass long ago ceased to function and I have badly betrayed the person most dear to me. The sad irony is that on discussing and admitting my cheating ways and sex with transsexual partners, my wife is most destroyed by the lies, dishonesty and betrayal rather than the infidelity itself. Whilst she is shocked by my sexual behavior, she is tolerant and understanding of same sex and third sex attraction. If only I had summoned the courage and respect for her to admit to my feelings some time ago, perhaps my marriage could have been saved.