Of course, we’re all gathered on this forum because we have a particular interest in transsexual women. This interest might be intellectual, might be of course sexual, might also be only curiosity, and might reach full emotional fascination. The risk we run in allowing ourselves to any such inclinations is to confuse fantasy and reality. Anyone decent who would build a relationship with a transsexual woman would care for her well being first, it seems to me, and not merely for his sexual satisfaction. Now, as it’s been said in this thread (ThirdEyeGirl, most eloquently amongst others), most of them seeks almost desperately the complete physical transition to fit their inner feeling of gender belonging, which they find in the gender reassignment surgery. A small number will, for many different reasons, decide not to go through with that, but will necessarily eventually have to cope with the long term effects of both the hormone replacement therapy and the androgen inhibitors, which are bound to diminish the capacity to “use” the penis actively.
What pornography present to us as the “shemale” is largely a fantasy that has little to do with the situation of these women. We might of course enjoy it and draw sexual satisfaction from it (I do it myself and I love it), but we should always keep in mind that we’re in the realm of the imagination more than anything. Even more so on this forum, considering the privilege granted to us by several transsexual women, gathering with us to exchange and relate. We owe them indeed at least as much as render them such minimal respect.
This being said, should we prefer pre-op or post-op (or indeed non-op)? I find that we should prefer the person with what she feels more comfortable with. There’s nothing as beautiful as a woman who feel good about herself, who’s happy and confident. Nothing more radiant and appealing. Nothing more attractive nor sexier. And that’s what I would be looking for.