Although I can identify with the prejudices the gay community continues to face, I do not, and never have, felt part of it.
When I was a boy, I dated girls. When I was a girl, I dated boys. It's strange how the objects of your sexual desire can switch gender like that as you transition. Anyway, regardless of my own ambiguous sexuality, I have never felt part of the gay community. Genitals really are irrelevant. When you make love to me, you know you are making love to a woman!
But, I do feel part of a much smaller, more isolated, underground community. Gay people can meet each other out in the real world, but when it comes to dating, trans women face a much trickier dilemma. I eventually, pragmatically, turned to internet dating, accepting the fact that I am an acquired taste. I don't really fit in to either "gay" or "straight".
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