Hi Ausie
Thanks for the look-in on your life.
Sex workers of all flavours get hit on for freebies presented in various guises.
That was the reasoning behind my slightly barbed comment. We are hugely suspicious.
Of course most sex workers are in relationships and either were before working as escorts, or they find a partner while working. Though not usually usually through work. For the single sex worker looking for fun, be it a one night stand through to a lifelong relationship they want someone special, who connects. And where the sex is good too. Otherwise we just think to ourselves: 'This is a pretty indifferent shag and I don't feel any special connection either. I'd rather be on the clock'
A partner or potential partner of an escort {one who is legit and not just angling for a free shag} gets to bring their own mental stuff to the party. Dating an escort is a huge amount emotionally to deal with. Sex is something special, on a pedestal not to be shared around. Least that's what society drums into us. No matter how liberal and sorted the guy is, at times that will bite him and fuck with his head.
My man lives abroad. When he is over he's not exactly thrilled to know I'm off out on a job to shag someone. Not so much the sex but the risk. Will I come back or be found decomposing in a ditch after ten days.
One of the things he does involves going up ladders with minimal safety kit. Oh the ladder may be ten foot high, but along side a 150 metre drop onto rocks. I hate him doing that. But he points out it's his job, by choice and no different to me doing an outcall.
I'm the first ts he's dated and the first Ts too. So serious head fuck territory for him. Aussie, I'm sure you have the same with your two ongoing relationships. Last year I had two partners, my man and a woman, who is still a close friend. {I met up last night to see her new motorcycle}
Complicated relationship sometimes describes relationships with Ts's, even more so if they escort. Aussie I'm glad you're not looking for a freebie from this other woman. With your primary partner, as long as she knows and is cool with it, then it rocks. I want to be with Mr Jodie all the time too.
Escorting gives me the financial and time freedom to do be with him more.
'As for a freebie, well it works both ways' ~ True. I was curious as to your motivation. You sound ok here and pretty balanced about things generally.
I'm guessing you've had a lot of head-fucks along the way to get there.
You know where you mentioned seeing pics of your partner as a boy?
A while ago I was French kissing Mr Jodie really passionately and out of the blue. I slowly raised up a picture from behind my back, of a handsome man with designer stubble. Yep, me from pre transition! I am a very bad person!
You sound pretty sorted in your life. And it seems to work for all three of you.
It did for us when we were in a three way thing which had some similarities to yours.
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