[hankhavelock]

I have told my story here years ago, so I will not repeat it. But it was super simple. I emailed her, we then talked over the phone, and after that we met IRL. And then we had a wonderful relationship. The relationship has stopped, and we're now just best friends, but that's immaterial.

In general it's very easy to get in contact with transsexual women. I find trans-women much more easygoing than cisgender women. There can be many reasons for that, but the thing is that you as the man must be ready for her. Surely, you can be a first-timer and all that, but above all be honest about your status and your intentions.

If you are (and trust me, I have not always been) then you most likely will meet a very loving and easygoing approach from your wonderful transsexual woman.

The hick-ups you may have by being a "beginner" is NOTHING compared to the adversity that trans-women meet everyday, so let her take the lead and relax, my friend.

But ALWAYS treat her with the greatest respect and sort out your inhibitions beforehand.

Being with a trans-woman is wonderful - and do enjoy your first time when you finally accept your sexuality and let her take the lead.

H

And let me add that once I did it and overcame my initial curiosity, I learned so much about my self and accepted myself readily. I'm now solely sexually attracted to trans-women, and I've had very loving relationships over the past six years. Some short, some long - no different from what any man has with cisgender women - but my point is that you should not be nervous about your attraction to transsexual women, you should instead cherish it as a gift to you. But be open about it!