Ok so here is the deal.
I'm a pre-op transsexual woman.
I am mainly attracted to other women.
But I have a long term chat partner on this forum, a man.
sound familiar?
This doesn't label me but gives me credentials to answer your question.
Honey, You don't need labels, you just need to be laid.
and held, cherished, adored, fondled, enjoyed, treasured, and all in high regard.
Women are not to be understood, but to be loved.
As for your guy thing you add at the end; most guys seem to be jerks. That takes care of a lot of the labeling load right there.