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Originally Posted by smc
One thing about "off the top of [one's] head" thinking is that it keeps people from stopping for a moment and thinking about the words they use. What you characterize as "a little too harsh" or responses provoked by language. It is our responsibility not simply to mean no offense, but ensure that they ways in which we communicate are not offensive even if that isn't our intent.
So, the point is that words do matter. I stand by what I wrote in response, meant to be a sarcastic response. I have no doubt that Jen and Anna will stand by their posts, too, although I wouldn't presume to speak for either of them.
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I do understand what you are saying SMC, but the trans-gendered community is still a 'minority', just as blacks, Chinese, gays, and the disabled are a 'minority' and as such the 'majority' often lack understanding about the issues that these groups face. From time to time some will 'slip up'.
For the first few years of my interests in 'trans-females' I gave little thought to their lives. Back then, to me, they existed only on the internet and only for as long as it took for me to satiate my urges and 'pop one off'. Once I ?came? and switched my PC off, these females vanished into nothingness. Obviously, I have grown a little since then and I am aware that they have trans-gendered females experience the same depths of complexity that we all face in our daily lives if not even more.
My point is that all of us 'trans lovers' are at different stages of awareness and our comments will sometime reflect that. Constructive criticism is often better than just criticism. I would hope that if I stumble in my 'gender nouns' that someone here would be kind enough to gently correct me, after all we are all here for the same reason, to share our appreciation of these fine females.