If finding someone special was easy...it just wouldn't be that special. That being said, I think it's fair to say that if a guy really wants to date a transsexual woman he should be doing the exact same thing he would with a GG. Be respectful...learn more about her than what she's "into" and be fully open and honest about who he is and his relationship goals because at the end of the day a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is just that and it's based on many factors. All of that being said...if a guy can't get past the hurdle of being "out" as a guy who dates TG women then it's probably best for him not to pursue sincere TG women for dating.
And of course...you must be looking in the right places