I know a lot of hot trans women
who don't escort
and hold the same values as you, on the relationship / dating / escort thing.
The truth is that if you are Ts, you do end up with a lot of Ts friends from all walks of life.
It's a safe comfort thing; we chat with each other and sometimes socialise
just because of the "T" thing in common.
Without that connection with others, a lot of Ts women are so hidden from their history.
One of my real world friends work in a very high visibility position in
consumer liaison. That means she interacts with huge numbers of people,
none of who are any the wiser.
Her on-line name on a trans forum for a while was
Stealthlite, which sums it up nicely.
- You have trans who are generally visible because they either choose not to hide their past,
or are by appearance/build. unable to. Mostly it's sadly the latter.
- You have a very small % of trans who are generally visible because they escort / do porn.
and finally
- You have trans who are generally invisible because they do not escort and because they appear to be a bio-female.
Which is a bugger if you want to date a concept [a trans-female]
rather than a specific person [Susie who has a trans background]
Damned if I know.