While I am glad you got the experience of being satisfactorily reamed, I'm afraid I fully agree with the view that sex without feeling loved is a very poor second best. It is useful to scratch a persistent itch, but being sweet-talked and romanced has no equal, and the anticipation makes everything so worthwhile. So next time up the ante, raise the stakes, and go for the real thing. It will be well worth your time and patience.
Make all your need and beauty worthwhile.