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Originally Posted by getinsideme
... Here's my question - but first, some background. I'm not sure if I'm a transvestite or transsexual (I've wanted to be a girl from a very young age) but I've recently decided to explore. ...
how feminine must I be to attract somebody, for either a casual relationship or hooking up? ...
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I appreciate your post and willingness to put these questions out there. My response will focus on the two parts of your post that I quote above.
While I am not transgender but an admirer, I believe strongly (as my many posts to this effect on this site will affirm) that the question of "passable" must be one that you answer for yourself. If you have wanted to be a girl from a very young age, you must transition in whatever way makes YOU comfortable, and gauge that transition according to your own measures. When you feel like the girl you've wanted to be, then you are "passable" by the only measure that matters: your own.
Your gender identity is yours to determine. There are plenty of men like myself who are attracted to the strength of the transgender woman as she makes her way through correcting her birth gender and finding her true self, with the specifics of any masculine features about which she might worry becoming a secondary-, tertiary-, or even non-consideration.
Be true to your own feelings -- put yourself out there when YOU feel like the girl you want to be -- and don't let your gender identity be defined by others.