The idea that all powerful men (or women) secretly want to be dominated seems to be a myth perpetuated by popular culture. I’m sure some do. Others don’t. It makes a great storyline however in pornography. And topic of conversation among amateur psychologists.

Fran is correct, I believe, when she says that those who must always be “in control” do so from a point of weakness. In my experience, those types of individuals make poor leaders and usually do not last in positions of authority. Power is an interesting thing to study. My short take on “power” is: If you have to explain to others that you have it--you haven’t got it.

I would seriously question why someone would always feel the need to be “in control” during something as pleasurable as sex anyway. Speaking again entirely for myself, I have found that the best sex is when there is shared control and my partner and I communicate to each other what we like.