Originally Posted by british_boy
I have a Filipina TS girlfriend, but if I had to pick a label, as restricting as they are, I'd identify myself as a straight man.
Sexuality isn't confined to whether the person you like has a cock or a pussy; it's the whole package. I am attracted to femininity, and I even sometimes wonder if the juxtaposition of a cock and an attractive woman enhances her femininity. For example, my girlfriend is petite, feminine, gentle, and when I'm snuggled up against her soft, smooth skin, stroking her long hair, and smelling her flowery perfume, it never crosses my mind that she was born a boy... she's a girl who happens to have a cock. If anything, it seems to bring us closer together in the sense that we are opposites - me being a big, burly bloke, and she a girly girl - but we have our sexual parts in common, and we can please each other in the same way.
To further demonstrate what I'm getting at, take a look at some gay porn - my feeling is that the sight of hard, hairy fellas with short haircuts, banging the hell out of each other in jockstraps will be a massive turn off. Next, take a look at some pictures of a TS male with a beard, pecs, skin-head and pussy. He was born a girl right? Bet you don't think it's 'straight' to fancy him, which leads to the logical conclusion that it's not 'gay' to fancy transsexual women.
I think that our biggest problem is others' perceptions of us. Only a few close, liberally-minded friends know the full extent of my relationship. Others know that I have a Filipina girlfriend, which isn't a lie, but they don't know the full story. If our relationship continues and we decided to settle together in the UK, I know there will be a shit-storm, and I could lose a few relatives and friends over it. I'm also sure there will be some hate, and some ignorant whispers of "Did you know Jay is gay?" behind my back. I just hope I'm strong enough to rise above it, support my lovely girl, and stay true to myself.
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