[british_boy]

I guess you have a lot of soul-searching to do. Maybe you should give it a six months to a year to see whether this is just a phase, or if you really have found your true sexuality.

If the novelty doesn't wear off after this time, I think you should discreetly see a trans-escort. You might find that the reality doesn't live up to the fantasy, and then you will know that you are happier as you are. I know it's technically cheating, but it's the lesser evil in my opinion.

If after these stages you still feel the same or stronger about T-girls, you have to be honest with yourself and your wife. It's not fair on her to go through life with someone who doesn't find her sexually attractive, and who is constantly lusting after others. You could also look for a trans-partner who really does it for you. Of course it would be incredibly tough, but you would both be happier in time.

I have a TS girlfriend from Asia and we're planning to live together next year, but I understand the pressure of society and the desire to conform. I get moments when I'm racked with doubts, and I feel that I should forget this 'silly' idea, find a GG and settle down, maybe have children, and socialise with other 'normal' couples. Oh yes, I feel it. But I know my heart's desire, and I'm trying to be true to myself. I take heed from mature men I know of who now live with trans partners after years of regular marriage. They lament the fact that they weren't honest with themselves when they were young.

Re. BL's point, if you're single and attracted to trans-girls, why compromise with a "boyish GG you can bum"? Get our there and find the real deal! It might not work out, but at least you went for it, and you can't spend forever saying "what if?".

Just my opinion. Good luck.