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Originally Posted by Mirabeau915
Earlier this morning I responded on one of your other posts on the subject, I did not see this one.
I am sorry, but I think I agree with the prevailing wind here, your BF has issues and and not sure it if has anything to do with shemales precisely. By which I mean that if it wasn't shemales, it would be something else.
When you say that "seems like the only real time he ever tells me is when I am about to walk out the door." I presume you mean "I love you" or somesuch. That would be very troubling I think, and possibly borderline abusive to be honest with you (on an emotional level). It doesn't give me the warm feely, and I am involved with a dedicated commitment-phobe who doesn't want to do more than half of the things I'd like to in bed. That aint good.
But this is all armchair psychology, and I'm not going to pry. Only you can know if there is a serious problem (like he just wants you to not be alone as one person suggested) or not. But sometimes we will try to convince ourselves of something we want, even when the facts are in front of us. Thus, I'd suggest some sort of counselling frankly, and normally I am not a fan of that sort of thing.
One thing I would say: You don't want to be married to someone that feels the way about you some of us have opined here, you deserve to be loved as more than a fuck buddy or a shield.
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Oh dear. So many of us long for another to want us as much as we want them. But tragically, the degree of need is not always equal. This is where mutual lust and that hazy happiness of falling in love comes in. It enables us to bond with immense strength, and to get us through so many of the bad patches in life. But a one-sided bonding where the strength of feeling and the starting points are not the same, will cause serious longer-term problems.
Yes we make ourselves believe what we most need and want, and this carries us forward against many doubts, but the reality may come with stunning force from the other person, and the dreams may be shattered.
Follow your instincts, feel his feelings, and if you can't do that surely, then back off and give the ' relationship ' a chance to founder. If it doesn't, then LUCKY YOU. If it does, then I'm sure you've got enough Love in you to move on to someone who really does care.
Reach out with your feelings. There is no other way.
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and Love