[johndowe]

Hi there.

More about respect.

If a guy gets picked on by others, and is beeing bullied, then he gets a gun.

Asked, he will say: I didn't get any respect before, now i do.

But is it respect?

No!

The reason he is no longer gets picked on is because he has a gun, and the guys that picked on him don't want to get shot, but if he lost the gun and they knew it he would realy get it, so where's the respect?

When you dis-respect some one, you also dis-respect yourself, you belittle your self, you also loose respect from those who see you dis-respecting others.

Earning respect is very easy, if you are a decent human beeing, you treat others like you would want them to treat you, you accept them as they are, and we are all different in one way or another, we aren't all the same, we all have feelings and emotions, we all have things we like and things we don't like, we are not always wrong, and we aren't always right (except me of course, Joking) and if you have a difference of opinion, you talk to them about it, in a calm and freindly way; respectfully, you don't attack them because they are different or have a different opinion than you, that is dis-respectfull.

Respecting someone you like is easy, respecting someone you don't like is not as easy, but the fact that you don't like him does it make him less of a person? And hence not worthy of respect? Of course not, and if you respect him even if you don't like him, you respect yourself and he should respect you back and eventually you could even become freinds, but not if you dis-respect him.

Personally, when a new tennant moves in "my" building and i see him or her i greet them with my signature "Hi there." and they usually respond positively, only one tought i had ulterior motives, but after a few times i said hi to him he spoke to me and told me that where he came from, when people spoke to him it was to get something from him, and he appologised.

I worked door to door for 7 years, and i was good at it, some of the reasons were because i was freindly and respectfull. In those seven years i only got the door slammed in my face 3 times, and once a guy tried to close the screen outer door i was holding, i didn't move to let him close it and stared him down, he appologised and closed the door, he didn't slam the door in my face like he wanted, and i didn't make my sell, but i didn't let him dis-respect me.

Love and respect...

If you love someone you respect them, and when you are in a relationship, and living togather, the respect should increase as the love also increases, that doesn't mean you should accept any thing and everything your partner does and sais, you can disagree with someone and argue with him without dis-respecting him, but all too often, in my experience, women get this notion that it is OK for her dis-respect her lover when she isn't 100% pleased with him, and when this happens she starts to bitch her little head off, AND not just about what just set her off, but also every little thing he ever did since they met, again and again, and after the 100th time she did that, he beats her up, then she's all surprised, wondering why he beat her she NEVER EVER did anything to deserve getting hit, much less beat up, why did he beat her? Because he was rightfully tired of her dis-respecting him and treating him like shit, it was wrong of him to beat her up, but it was also wrong of her to bitch her little head off at him, every single time she did it, if she realy loved and respected him she wouldn't have bitched at him in the first place, dis-respect breads dis-respect, and it is never healthy.


IT IS NEVER OK TO DIS-RESPECT ANYONE, NO EXCEPTIONS.

And if you are, you shouldn't stand for it.


PS, i have stated it before, and i state it again, i have never hit any of my girlfriens or my (ex)wife.

JohnDowe.