I see that you are all seeking a more “personal” definition of “respect vs. fear.” I think it is a great question worthy of discussion. My only problem with it here is that I find it hard to discuss things like this online without actually knowing the participants. Also, it may be slightly “off topic” for this forum. I’d much rather talk about “Kelly Shore” or “Camila Saenz”…
Many years before I became a "respected" Associate Professor--back in high school and college I played football, rode a motorcycle, listened to Metallica, and was considered something of a “badass” or "hooligan." I was the guy who was “voted most likely to succeed or end up on the 10 most wanted list.” LOL The last time I got into a fight and “beat the shit” out of someone was my Freshman year of college and fortunately for me it was considered “self defense.”
Somewhere along the way I “grew up” and focused my energies on more “productive” endeavors like studying hard, thinking about a career other than in the NFL, being a good husband, etc. Our society typically doesn’t condone violence as a solution to personal disagreements and “kicking someone’s ass” can more often than not, land you in jail. Where you will get lots of “love and respect” from your fellow inmates! LOL
My reaction to someone’s “in your face” response now would be to laugh and walk away. Where it goes from there is up to the other person. I have never had anyone pursue it further. Kind of like “flipping the bird” to someone while driving. Do you really want to “kill” the other driver? There was a well publicized “road rage” incident here just a few weeks ago. The driver who felt “disrespected” is now facing his day in court. Again, years of “love and respect” from your new “cellmates.”
The clear exception would be if someone posed an immediate threat to myself or my family. That is another matter entirely and involves principles of “self defense.” If you want to read a great book on the issues involved in using deadly force, I suggest “In the Gravest Extreme” by Massad Ayoob.
Peace (and Respect)…
