Silvia - The Pill does no have enough estrogen to really provide the results you need, neither do the non-prescription supplements for menopause. You are essentially competing against your body and it's production of testosterone, so you need higher doses of hormones as well as testosterone blockers for the best results.
You seriously should consult a doctor. Taking HRT on your own can be dangerous. Blood clots, deep vein thrombosis, liver and kidney damage can all happen. These things are looked for when you have a doctor's assistance, but are not detectable until too late without.
www.tsroadmap.com has some very good information on hormones. They also have ways to get them if you really can't get a doctor - but I STRONGLY suggest that you do.