interesting thread. for a long time, i was desperate for some kind of "identity". as much as labels are just something for people who do not feel they belong to one thing so they can point out another group and say "i'm not that", there's certainly some appeal in having an identity, not a label. to me at least.
all the above points mentoned arevery good ones by the way. it's a very interesting discussion. for a long time i had serious battles with myself about whether i was gay or not. i now know i'm not, but straight is a term that doesn't quite fit either.
someone remind me what pansexual means?
by the way i do have a girlfriend (genetic), and she knows about my little "fetsih", but since i told her we have hardly spoken about it and im not sure how comfortable she is with it. i'm not UNattracted to vagina by a long shot, i'm quite partial to it, but i admit that cock is a preference (i certainly think cock LOOKS far better...the vagina looks like some vicious plant that wants to destroy whatever goes in it). having said that, i only think that in my head, and encountering it in real life might provoke an entirely different reaction. unlikely though.
back to the tpoic at hand though, yes, i would rather have an identity. on the other hand, only a handful of people know my true sexual preference, and i'm not sure how i'd feel about being open about my real "identity" in public. sometimes i think gay people have it easier than us because of (GENERALLY) how accepted they are now. but tgirl admirers? we're one of societies little "problems" that get ignored, like the tgirls themselves.
i can only hope that one day things will change, and we'll all be able to walk around, openly honest about who and what we are without fear of judgement for it
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