Problem of what to do with my cock in bed.
 

I always have an issue in bed over my junk, and what do do with it.

I know most of hte guys on here just love to get thier hands on it and lavish attention on the girl cock, but I really don't like a guy doing that. Esspecially sucking it, I mean blowjobs feel good, but I feel uncomfortable with a guy sucking me.

Really all i like is either me or him rubbing it n squesing my balls a bit (preferably thru my panties) when I'm sucking him, or getting anal. I only need a bit of rubbing my cock head to make me cum if i have a cock prodding into my prostate, so I don't need a vigourous handjob from a guy when i'm taking it up the ass.
I really don't like getting blowjobs (tho I don't feel same way if we do 69, thats fine, as long as the guy is better hung (which is always, lol) and on top), or handjobs on thier own (a reach around is fine) and definatly not giving anal.

I guess it feels more girly like that, but on hte other hand, I like a guy fondling my bits when we are kissing n stuff, I just really don't like it being centre of attention, like were going oh look, let's play with the dick-girl's dick.


Problem is I find a lot of guys feel the opposite, they want to get my cock out and play with it a lot, which I suppose is pretty obvious, if they didn't like dick, the may as well go out with GG's n save the trouble of dating a neurotic dick concious tranny, but I guess in bed i'd like them to enjoy my cock a bit more subtly, enjoy it along with the rest of my body rather than concentrate on it alone,



Anyway, i really wana hear about how other girls want guys to do or not do with thier cock during sex, and what boys want to do with our cocks in bed. love ot hear what people do if thier sexual partner has a differnt idea of what to do with the girl's cock I always feel weird telling guys I don't want him to suck me off.


Sorry for such a jumbled post, hope it makes sense, lol

I decided to add a poll to see if what girls n guys want matches up.

no apology necessary
 

Anna, thank you for your post and no "sorry for such a jumbled post" necessary. I am new to this, and I really like the idea of having a girl like you tell me exactly what she wants and then treating her the way she wants. After all, wouldn't it be the same with a GG? I, for one, think it ought to be. Sex should be all about making each other feel good and feel best.

Your description of what you want sounds like real lovemaking -- the best kind of sex.

I look forward to the day soon when I'm with a girl like you and can be precisely the lover she wants, the way she wants.

wow, yes would definitely enjoy playing with you Anna, a lilbito 69 first then me :coupling: you= both happy!

I think the most logical thing to do is before you're about to do the deed, tell the person you're with how you'd like for them to treat your body.

If that's really you in your avatar then I'd say anyone lucky enough to get that close to you wouldn't mind a few restrictions. :D

I was the same way i hated having my cock jerked or sucked, I always hated it guess i always had vigina envy, I always told the guy i was with that area was hands off, I only allowed my boyfriend to have at it only once and that was the night before i left for Thailand for my SRS. You just have to explain it to them and if they can't accept it then he is not right for you :hug: Jennifer

I like a little play, but not focusing on it and certainly not in a masculine way.

I like to give as well as take after all, getting some attention downstairs first is better than just going straight for the fuck

well, even with only a few replies, pol is going how I thought it would. most of the boys want to play with our cocks a lot, n all the girls so far dont want that.

oh well i guess its no different than problem boys n genetic girls have, blah, wish I was a lesbian.

missing option
 

Perhaps the poll is missing a choice:

"I like to play with her cock just the amount she wants her cock played with."

Me and my girlriend wish so too. :innocent:

New option for girls
 

You should've probably put cock touching at all. so far i've only been sexually active with three men (dated others but no sex) and one of them was so obsessed with my cock that we ended up breaking up. i HATE:frown::censored: it when anyone even wants to see my cock little lone feel it. so i can't wait to get rid of it just Jen did.

i am strictly a bottom dweller.

P.S. congrats on the successful surgery Jen.:)

Play & play & suck & play... repeat, repeat, repeat, re... :lol::lol::lol:

I'm going to complicate things a little.. since that's what I do lol

There are two typs of guys who dats us. The ones who know before they meet us (like on a TS dating site or escort ad or craigslise etc.) and the guys who don't know when they meet us, but get past it and do it.

In either case the penis becomes the point of attention for the guy. Guy#1 wants to see it, touch it, and feel it. Guy #2 wants to pretend it isn't there, wants it hidden, avoids even accidental contact/exposure.

Neither of these scenarios is ideal for me (and probably most). For me the cock is almost as sexual as my big toe. That is to say, I'm a sexual being from head to toe, but none of it is any more/less sexual than the rest. The penis simply is... I can gain pleasure from it, but it's just not really that important.

OTOH - guy #2 makes me feel like I should be ashamed of my body and my history. Freaking out because the bits popped outta the panties during a throw-down screwing does not make me feel sexy or particularly safe. Having to be extra aware of the position of my junk is a bother during sex.

There isn't an easy answer, and probably the best thing is to go with guy #1, have him gobble it down a bit and then instruct him in the various ways your body receives pleasure. Only the thickest, most unworthy, selfish goober of a man won't get what you are doing and eagerly follow your lead.

Interesting results
 

I have definitely met a fewt-girls who didn't enjoy having their cock played with, they felt self-conscious, but the majority of ladyboys I have met really enjoyed having their cock played with, sucked etc.

I don't really mind if a guy plays with my cock, I'd even let him suck me off if he wants. Just as long as he doesn't expect me to top him.

Tslust, would you give me some of your ass in my face? I hope you will top me and shove your gaping butthole into my face.

mmmmmm Ya, I'd let you eat my gaping ass while I suck your :drool:cock:drool:, getting it hard and ready to go again.:inlove::turnon::coupling:

I could go for days with you tslust. Your open asshole tastes so good. Ican't get enough it. Lick it to the left, lick to the right. Lick it all night and stick a few fingers up your wide open back door. Come on and give my cock your good sucking. I want to feel your face and cheeks rub against my hard veiny cock. As I stick 2, no maybe 1 more finger up your ass. Yep another one fits with my tongue licking you up. I am so horny with my cock on your lips, as I finger fuck you! I am so bad.

Do you need some dick? do you need some dick right now? Do you need me to pull my fingers out of you so we can go fuck?

mmmmm Your tongue feels soo good. I just can't get enough of your :drool:cock:drool:, I guess you know that already.

Oh I get it! I like it when you sit on my hard cock. And scream because it feels so good. I can't get enough of your ass. Ride my cock bitch, jump up and down as hard as you can on it. Oh yeah. I like it when you slam down on my cock and I feel your shecock flap up and down on my stomach. I am giving it to you oh so good, because you have such a wonderful ass, as you slam hard on my cock as I fill you up with my cum.

mmmmmm Ya baby. I love it when you fill my ass with your seed.:kiss::inlove::turnon::coupling:

Oh and I will squeeze your cute ass as I bust a huge nut up in you. You will be leaking my cum out of your ass for days.

I love your tasty asspussy oh so much.

I guess I fall in your first category, and yes, I enjoy my woman's penis - just as I used to enjoy my woman's vagina.

I don't consider it a crime to enjoy her sexual organs - I am aware, however, that for quite a few trans-girls the penis is "something not to focus on". They still scream their orgasms out, though, and when they slowly realize, that their penis is NOT a sign of their masculinity they tend to loosen up a little bit. I kid you not!

Transsexuality happens between the ears and not between the legs. And there's no need to mistake a penis for an unworthy masculine attribute. It can be just as feminine as well.

Ponder this... her penis can make her even more of a woman...

H

ya i agree with hank, i dont feel like a girls dick makes her masculine in any way. So is the reason you dont like your dick played with, because it makes you feel masculine? (directed to Anna, Bionca, and any other tgirl)

Not sure i can put this in words but i'll give it a try, To start with i never felt masculine in whole life, Yes when i was born i had a penis and the DR declared me to be male but i always felt female, So having a penis and having it played with never made me feel masculine the reason i hated having one and having it touched made me feel even more like a freak it didn't belong there, I never should have had a penis to start with and the sight of it just reminded me that some where someone screwed up big time because i was a girl not a boy, So for me it was more of it didn't belong there and i shouldn't have had one to start with. Ok i probaly have everyone even more confused now :confused: Jennifer

hmmm, alright I see where you are coming from with that, the penis just reminds you that your original body never matched your original mind, I guess?

But even with that explanation it still seems like the penis is equated to being a boy and the vagina is equated to being a girl. I'm sure we all agree that despite what you had down there you always felt feminine and people like me and hank, as well as every one else on this forum thought of you and other tgirls as feminine, with or without a dick.

So the dilema still remains, guys like us see your girls dick as adding even more to your beuty and you girls seem to maybe see it as an abnormality?

Please correct me if I am wrong in my interpretation, this really is important for me to wrap my mind around

Just enjoy what ya got, enjoy who you're with, enjoy the moment... AND, get on with it!!! :yes::yes::yes: Do what feels good that both consent to!:turnon::turnon::turnon:

I guess I would rather be the one to be pleasured.Getting a TG off might be a little difficult , but that would depend on the individual. I admit that I would more than likely be one who would hold,squeeze and gently jerk a she male cock for a moment or so out of sheer curiosity. With one or two others,I might take it in my mouth and suck lightly for another minute or so, but I'd freeze right after having my curiosity tweeked and probably go limp. Guess I'm just a nervous nellie huh? But I know I wouldn't freak out or go ape on her. I just don't know if I could ever rod her back door.

i would like to play with the cock a lot but if she told me not to i can pretty well comply

Well Anna i guess i'll add my opinion. Having never been w/ a Tgirl (yet) then of course i would be curious about touching it and sucking it, now dont hold it against me. Now if she doesn't enjoy it and asks me to stop then yes i'd stop. Besides making love w/ her would be about sharing pleasure, making her relaxed and having fun. But i'm a gentleman first and foremost, whatever my lady desires i shall endeavor to fulfill.

Playing with my teenie weenie
 

I agree that my penis, or the fact that I have a penis should not be the main focus when a guy gets me into bed. When it is treated as just another area to suck, touch, caress, like my breasts, nipples, toes, legs, that is just fine. When I have a hard cock deep inside of me, my penis is just fine on it's own, in fact, I usually forget I have it, and instead concentrate on the beautiful sensation coming from my bottom. So yes, play with it, but do not fixate on it.

Just let me suck you dry, I like sucking more than fucking.

I love a guy who likes to take his time. He gently kiss me. We look into each others eyes as our lips draw closer. Our lips softly melt together as I wrap my arms around his neck. His tongue slides past my lips and into my mouth. He scoops me up in his arms as he rolls over on his back. I look into his eyes as I grind my ass against his crotch. He sticks a thumb into my mouth and I suck on it. I lean down and kiss him. His hands lift my mini skirt. I moan into his mouth as his thumb circles my hole, before sliding inside my ass. I grind my ass against his probing thumb. I feel his erection straining to be released. He pulls his thumb out and brings it up to my face. I look into his eyes as I lick then suck on his thumb. Then I slide down his body, unfasten his pants and pull out his big, hard :drool:cock:drool:. I run my tongue across the tip and look into his eyes, "So, what do you want me to do next?"

Wow, that is such a sensually erotic description of making love.

I think I'm in love. :inlove:

:blush:thanks:):kiss:

:cool:

I need to get a plane ticket to cum see you. DAMN

high heels.....
 

I want you to want me in my high 5" black stilettos heels....
that make me want to suck cock....make me want to feel it....can you rub up next to me....
:kiss:

mmmmmMMMMMMmmmm
 

soooo hot....:kiss:

:cool:I just love wearing my 6" heels.:yes:

i love it when a guy sucks me of while im sleeping and I get to wake to it

Of course, you mean in your dreams, where the guy actually has fallen for the trap -- right?

@smc: It's a trap!

I like how you explain it best :) Btw need a 22 y/o soldier?!? Lol i have 5 months before i get shipped back to germany an id love to spend em with you haha :innocent:

remove the heels haha. bare your soles ;)

I want to meet a Shemale
 

I am not gay and I like Pussys as well , but I have a Dream...
One Day i will meet a Shemale like this... and my Dream come True

As a male, I think most men interested in t-girls would want to play with it, since, as you put it, why not just go GG otherwise? But, men into only GG probably want to do anal from time to time too - but if the girl doesn't want to, that's that. It's your body, and you shouldn't have to do what you don't want to do. That's not what sex should be like. Besides, its not like he's making some big sacrifice - there's a lot more fun to be had in bed with you than that :p
Although maybe from time to time you can allow the guy to play with it, sort of as a favor, and put up with the discomfort. Of course, that is still completely up to you, but it might be a nice thing to do from time to time, just like a GG might allow the occassional anal.
:)

Simply accept it? I do not mean that in an easy and dismissive way. After having met a transwoman and being a frequent visitor to this forum I have realized that the way I look at transwomen is different from the way many others view them. I no longer think of them as women who were once men. I think of them simply as women whom you discover?after having looked or scrolled down the page?to have a penis. That they were born male rarely enters my thoughts. The more I think about it, the more I search the endless halls of this forum, the more I view these individuals as women, without reference to what they were born as. It?s a chick?she has a penis?I like that?End of story.

It occurs to me that many transwomen do themselves a disservice by focusing too much on their genitalia in a negative fashion. This is not to demean those who have issues but rather to state that perhaps you could try to view yourself not as a woman with something lacking, but a woman who happens to have been born with a penis. You have a penis, yes, yet you are also a woman. And too readily focusing too much negative attention on your genitalia in such a way, I cannot help but think, gives credence (if obliquely) to the idea?which all of us as members of this forum ought despise?that gender is dictated by the primary sexual characteristics. I believe history bears this out, if one is willing to look beyond the boundaries of the white, Christian hegemony. Some would call it a third sex. That is not to discredit those women who every day have to deal with the pain of a body that cruelly refuses to conform to what she knows is in her head, regardless of those moments when the society around her damns her as somehow abominable. Space must, of necessity and compassion for fellow human beings, be made to accommodate those transsexual women who cannot manage the presence of male genitalia between their legs and make the conscious, well-thought out decision to excise the member in question which causes them such grief. (And yes, I know I just said male genitalia, but you?ll have to excuse me if language hasn?t caught up to reality. Jumping vocabulary hoops is no joke.)

I imagine it must be like living with a perpetually open wound whom any fool is allowed to rub salt into. But there are cultures where individuals similar to those whom we call transsexual are viewed as acceptable, as a third sex. They may be ambivalent, as is the case with the fa'afafine of Samoa (which may be a recent development due to the spread of western monotheism), but overall they view it as a third sex and that?s that?everyone can continue to tuck into dinner and engage their fa?afafine cousin in conversation.

So what to do with your penis? Accept it. Love it. Jove knows the men on this site all lavish attention on theirs and bow down?in sundry ways?before those of women such as yourself. You said it yourself: if the men here wanted pussy instead of cock they would have a much easier time of it with a gg, many of whom?woe upon men like me who are more interested in transwomen at the moment?flood the streets of our world. And, really, is all that stress doing you much good? It?d be easier for you to turn round to your partner and ask him to worship your body. Chances are he or she (or both? or more than both? some people have all the fun) will be all too ready and willing to supply you with veneration.

Anna the reason I prefer girls like yourself is because you have a cock. Yes of course there is more to a girl than her cock but it is still important to men like me. If it wasn't I would just be happy with a G-girl - and they are one hell of a lot easier to find.

Surely it's a good thing that there are men who appreciate you for what you are ?

love to play with cock
 

I love to play with cock in bed and balls as well there is nothing more wonderful than loving a beauitful cock. That is when a man falls in love knowing that the bond between his girl and him is complete.:inlove:

If I will ever meet a tgirl and be with her in bed, I think I would be more interested in her boobs and asspussy, than cock. If she likes playing with her cock, why not, it's part of her body and sex is about giving pleasure to both partners.

Yeah, I guess I'm part of the small 14% of guys that want to just treat TS girls like GG. I dunno, I'm not attracted to guys in any way and not interested in getting fucked by a dick or even sucking a dick. In many ways I have an even more advanced fetish.
My perfect girlfriend is 100% passable, and has a very small and possibly useless penis. (Doesn't get hard)
I know, "why not get with a genetic girl?" I dunno, I just find the way a ts girl turns me on so much. Now here is where it gets odd. although I want a small useless clit-dick on my girl I don't want a pussy. For example, if a ts girl gets SRS done. I feel I'm no longer attracted to her.
If she has her balls removed thats a plus, but just not the penis itself. Crazy huh?
Maybe I'm just an ASS freak. Knowing that the ass is the only place I can have sex with them and the only hole they can get pleasure from.:coupling:
When I'm with a TS gurl I tend to refer to her anus as a Pussy and I find that turn lots of gurls on.
I just love knowing that they WANT me inside and giving it their all when it comes to being a woman in bed.

So to sum up, you sound like the perfect girl to me. ;) :turnon:
:hug:

I must admit, this is one of the better subjects I have read here. It really made me think.

I just assumed that a good amount of attention should be paid to the she-cock, or should I say the same amount that I would pay to the pussy of a GG.

I guess I never really understood that YOU (the t-girl) might feel more masculine because of that. In a way it does present a conundrum for me, as I am quite oral. Both with TS's and GG's.

If any of you special ladies read this, I hope you reconsider...lol The attention to your cock does NOT make to more masculine. If I wanted masculine, I would be gay, which I am far from. (no disrespect to those that are, just not my cup o tea)

In addition, in an earlier post, a girl mentioned that she hated topping, because of the same reason. In my opinion even THAT should not make you feel masculine, no more than the GG's that have topped me using a strapon!

Fear not ladies... you ARE Ladies

Just sayin'

Pleasure
 

I would suck until she:turnon: will fall asleep :p and still be at it when she wakes up.