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baasje43 05-25-2011 10:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by E24th (Post 185896)
(...) Transsexuals are women, (...)

That's how I feel about.
So I am not gay.

E24th 05-26-2011 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by transfan85 (Post 181131)
I can only speak for myself, and this is something I have given a lot of thought to. I consider myself a gay male, I date men, I love men. I accidentily came across the trans-world and discovered I was insanely attracted to the girls I saw. The wonderful thing about tgirls, is that they are neither women nor men. They are something else entirely. Having said that, perhaps we are a third sexuality all our own, neither gay or straight. No matter what we're called, I love transgirls and won't stop :-)

Despite the part about tgirls not being women or men (I consider them women, although a special, more appreciable kind of woman), it's so good to see I'm not alone on this one! Boy that does actually make me feel a lot better, I'm not a total weirdo!

linflo 05-27-2011 04:39 AM

Are We Gay
 
Personally I think does it really matter?

Everyone is so obssessed with labels.

I am a huge shemale admirer (have been for 10 years now when i first saw christy mcnicole). Like a lot of guys I don't find guys attractive, I still like females but really prefer shemales or even convincing TV's if they remain in role.
Shemales are generally much more feminine that real girls nowadays, and I must admit I also love cock both sucking and taking. But would never consider it with a guy.

I love being with femine pretty ladies but having the experience of something more than a female can give me - it's basically the best of both worlds.
I'm not phased by genetailia, it's about the person, and if i like the person i'll do anything with them which is fun for both.

I don't care what people percieve me as being I don't call myself anything - but I would think that the girls on here would not consider guys like me as being gay because they feel and are beautiful women, who should be repected and treated in that manner.
:)

smc 05-27-2011 01:15 PM

Perhaps if some of the posters who insist on keeping it alive with "serious" posts are forced, in some way, to confront sexually the very thing they profess not to be, and then we have a warning pop up that this will happen if you post seriously in this thread?

My model for this is something in Dan Savage's latest "Savage Love" column, which runs in alternative newsweeklies across the United States:
THE CHOICER CHALLENGE: Last week, the leader of British Columbia's Conservative Party, John Cummins, told a radio interviewer that gay people shouldn't be covered by the BC Human Rights Act because being gay is "a conscious choice."

Like truthers (9/11 was an inside job!), birthers (Barack Obama was born in Kenya!), and deathers (Osama bin Laden is alive and well and living in West Hollywood!), choicers would appear to be just another group of deranged conspiracy theorists who can't be dissuaded by science or evidence or facts. And John Cummins isn't the only choicer out there. We have lots of choicers right here in the United States (Tony Perkins, Rick Santorum, "Stephen Colbert," et al.).

But what if the choicers are right? What if being gay is something people consciously choose? Gee, if only there were a way for choicers to prove that they're right and everyone else is wrong... actually, there is a way for choicers to prove that they're right!

I hereby publicly invite—I publicly challenge—John Cummins to prove that being gay is a choice by choosing it himself.

Suck my dick, John.

I'm completely serious about this, John. You're not my type—you're about as far from my type as a human being without a vagina gets—but I have just as much interest as you do in seeing this gay-is-a-choice argument resolved once and for all. You name the time and the place, John, and I'll show up with my dick and a camera crew. Then you can show the world how it's done. You can demonstrate how this "conscious choice" is made. You can flip the switch, John, make the choice, then sink to your bony old knees and suck my dick. And after you've swallowed my load, John, we'll upload the video to the internet and you'll be a hero to other choicers everywhere.

It's time to put your mouth where your mouth is, John. If being gay is a choice, choose it. Show us how it's done.

Suck my dick.
Imagine it: you post in this thread one of those fretting, sweating-it-out, "am I gay, oh my god?" screeds, and a big, hairy gay bear comes to your house and fucks the living daylights out of you!

You'll either never dare post again in this thread, or you'll love it and the thread will no longer be relevant to you.

I think that might work better than the stake through the heart I mentioned earlier.

Enoch Root 05-27-2011 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smc (Post 186110)
Imagine it: you post in this thread one of those fretting, sweating-it-out, "am I gay, oh my god?" screeds, and a big, hairy gay bear comes to your house and fucks the living daylights out of you!

I laughed silently at this. My laughter got stuck in my throat yet I felt my chest swell.

This is a good plan smc. You and the rest of the moderators should look into putting it in place. You should send a soft boy my way though. I'm not one for bears.

SluttyShemaleAnna 05-27-2011 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smc (Post 186110)
Perhaps if some of the posters who insist on keeping it alive with "serious" posts are forced, in some way, to confront sexually the very thing they profess not to be, and then we have a warning pop up that this will happen if you post seriously in this thread?

My model for this is something in Dan Savage's latest "Savage Love" column, which runs in alternative newsweeklies across the United States:
THE CHOICER CHALLENGE: Last week, the leader of British Columbia's Conservative Party, John Cummins, told a radio interviewer that gay people shouldn't be covered by the BC Human Rights Act because being gay is "a conscious choice."

Like truthers (9/11 was an inside job!), birthers (Barack Obama was born in Kenya!), and deathers (Osama bin Laden is alive and well and living in West Hollywood!), choicers would appear to be just another group of deranged conspiracy theorists who can't be dissuaded by science or evidence or facts. And John Cummins isn't the only choicer out there. We have lots of choicers right here in the United States (Tony Perkins, Rick Santorum, "Stephen Colbert," et al.).

But what if the choicers are right? What if being gay is something people consciously choose? Gee, if only there were a way for choicers to prove that they're right and everyone else is wrong... actually, there is a way for choicers to prove that they're right!

I hereby publicly invite?I publicly challenge?John Cummins to prove that being gay is a choice by choosing it himself.

Suck my dick, John.

I'm completely serious about this, John. You're not my type?you're about as far from my type as a human being without a vagina gets?but I have just as much interest as you do in seeing this gay-is-a-choice argument resolved once and for all. You name the time and the place, John, and I'll show up with my dick and a camera crew. Then you can show the world how it's done. You can demonstrate how this "conscious choice" is made. You can flip the switch, John, make the choice, then sink to your bony old knees and suck my dick. And after you've swallowed my load, John, we'll upload the video to the internet and you'll be a hero to other choicers everywhere.

It's time to put your mouth where your mouth is, John. If being gay is a choice, choose it. Show us how it's done.

Suck my dick.
Imagine it: you post in this thread one of those fretting, sweating-it-out, "am I gay, oh my god?" screeds, and a big, hairy gay bear comes to your house and fucks the living daylights out of you!

You'll either never dare post again in this thread, or you'll love it and the thread will no longer be relevant to you.

I think that might work better than the stake through the heart I mentioned earlier.

Dan Savage is playing a dangeous game there... We all know a lot of these right wing homophobes turn out to total closet cases, Dan may may think he's quite safe with no chance og his offer being taken up, but he may well end up with John Cummins' crusty old lip wrapped around his wang. He will probly be ok tho, as he isn't a barely legal intern.

P.S. You are STILL all a bunch of fags.

smc 05-27-2011 02:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enoch Root (Post 186116)
I laughed silently at this. My laughter got stuck in my throat yet I felt my chest swell.

This is a good plan smc. You and the rest of the moderators should look into putting it in place. You should send a soft boy my way though. I'm not one for bears.

You are not the target of my plan. But if you were, why would I send you what you want? :lol:

Quote:

Originally Posted by SluttyShemaleAnna (Post 186121)
Dan Savage is playing a dangeous game there... We all know a lot of these right wing homophobes turn out to total closet cases, Dan may may think he's quite safe with no chance og his offer being taken up, but he may well end up with John Cummins' crusty old lip wrapped around his wang. He will probly be ok tho, as he isn't a barely legal intern.

P.S. You are STILL all a bunch of fags.

Anna, how exactly do you know that John Cummins' lips are "crusty" -- because from pictures one could only surmise that? ;)

Enoch Root 05-27-2011 03:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smc (Post 186123)
You are not the target of my plan. But if you were, why would I send you what you want? :lol:

Because--to use Anna's word--I know I'm a fag.

smc 05-27-2011 04:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enoch Root (Post 186129)
Because--to use Anna's word--I know I'm a fag.

I think you're in the wrong thread. The thread for getting what you like because you admit to what you like is ... FUCK, it's nearly every other thread on this site!

10eazye 05-29-2011 06:41 PM

I think liking shemales makes you a pansexual.
Google pansexuality if you need more info.

Basically a pansexual is someone who doesn't care about biological sex when determining if a person is attractive.

transjen 05-31-2011 07:23 PM

To all you guys asking if you are gay if you like shemales
I have to ask you this important question, why do you care what i or anyone else on this forum think?
You are asking a question that only you can answer
Forget what others think or say the only person's opion you should care about is your own
Opions are like butt holes everyone has one but in the end the only one you should clean is your own
So stop caring what others think and think for yourself if you like shemales then go for it and enjoy
:yes: Jerseygirl Jen

JodieTs 05-31-2011 07:25 PM

Does liking shemales make you gay?

Q.
I am a transsexual woman.
I am sexually attracted to other transsexual women.
Does this make me gay?

A.
Obviously, yes it does.


The end.

kkq 06-01-2011 05:00 AM

This will not go anyway. People are not secure in there own thoughts an want others to say if you are gay or not. The thread should read, "I do not give a flap if I am gay or not if I like shemales, as we are talking about people, not a object!"

Last night I was in a market with my long term girl. I had two young Thai school girls whisper,"katoey!" as we walked past. Only the Thai's can tell she is a a Ladyboy. I stopped an spoke to the young girls an said in Thai,"if this is your older sister you are talking about, do you think you would have hurt her feelings as she has the same feelings as you about talk an rejection." They did not realize this they told me an never see a Ladyboy with a handsome young man.

So what I am trying to say, being gay or whatever, it is a stigma added to a person an if you cannot accept that a person is a person within our own skin an sexual presence, this thread will infact grow.

My parents an family know what I do an who I am with. I have a great income an life but don't go around thinking now if I am gay or not.

We are just "we"... Nothing else, nothing more. Close the thread but peoples insecurity will breath another to life.

kkq 06-02-2011 11:20 PM

Posted on my iPhone so please forgive mistakes.

Now to throw the cat into the pigeon cage; last night my ts girl an three of her very beautiful Ladyboy friends (yes heaven for me), we ended up due to choice of dance music, at a gay club here in Thailand. I live here an we go out all the time together. The other places we go to were very, very quiet but for some reason, this club was going off.*

Now the girls did not really want to go to this club but the need to dance overroad the suggestion to go home early. I asked why they did want to go an the answer was just wait an see for me an that they would look after me. Now, I was the only non Thai in the club, an the girls hovered around me like bees to a honey pot; they dirty danced with me like never before ani was up on the dance floor with all 4 treating me like a personal strip pole.*

Now, i started to notice many men smiling at me, had bar-staff come to my table asking me to join a group of men an then had a bathroom attendant try an follow me into my stall for as he suggested, to hold my dick so it would not get wet.

I told the girls of my adventures an was not turned on at all by this display. We had a very in-depth conversation that concluded with that my ts friends only wanted a straight man to look after them like a woman they were. They said they would not sleep with a "gay" man an gay men would not sleep with them.

So I asked them since I like the extra bit now they have, was I gay? They all came back to me an said I was not gay as I wanted the aspect of a woman an was always straight before meeting them. This went into depth on straight men an sex and all 4 said they would all only be bottoms as being a top turned them right off, not on at all?*

It* went into much more detail then this but that would be another post on dick size an how they hate there cocks.

So in this case, does this turn the tables on us? I believe in my own sexuality like I posted before but this info comes from four of my closest friends. Only a very small cross section but still, I believe them more so them anything else.

Sebastian Norah 06-02-2011 11:50 PM

Loving Tboys isn't necessarily gay.

Emulating them is, on the other hand..
:p

HC83 06-04-2011 08:41 PM

Often thought to myself 'am i gay for liking shemales' but I have no interest in men at all. A cock on a shemale is totally hot. Kimber James is my fav.

Frozen_Warnings 06-04-2011 09:23 PM

If a gay dude watches tranny porn would that make him straight?

JodieTs 06-05-2011 01:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Frozen_Warnings (Post 187113)
If a gay dude watches tranny porn would that make him straight?

Yes totally. :turnon:

talltijo 06-05-2011 08:40 AM

i to love shemales
 
43 yo male here. I have been coming to grips with my love for ts / shemales for over 7 years now. I really don't consider myself gay rather I just view them as sexy girls that just so happen to have a cock.

jbhk197 06-05-2011 12:20 PM

Hi, Im new to this
 
Hi,
I guess I should introduce myself, Ive been roaming around here for the past month or so. Lots of good info here, seems to be nice people around.
I never knew I was into this TS scene thing or whatever its called until a month ago. Had a a few beers in my new neighborhood then next thing you know, im in a ladys flat and you get the rest im sure.
From what I read it seems like a fantasy to some to have this happen, but I honestly never thought about it until it was over and done with. I just rolled with it you know?
I came to realize that I should just chalk it up to another new experience in life. The only problem is I cant stop thinking about it. I know im not gay, I don't even like looking at myself naked in a mirror let alone another guy. But this is all to new to me.
A bit confused here is all. If anyone has any advice I would love to hear it.
thanks

smc 06-05-2011 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jbhk197 (Post 187176)
Hi,
I guess I should introduce myself, Ive been roaming around here for the past month or so. Lots of good info here, seems to be nice people around.
I never knew I was into this TS scene thing or whatever its called until a month ago. Had a a few beers in my new neighborhood then next thing you know, im in a ladys flat and you get the rest im sure.
From what I read it seems like a fantasy to some to have this happen, but I honestly never thought about it until it was over and done with. I just rolled with it you know?
I came to realize that I should just chalk it up to another new experience in life. The only problem is I cant stop thinking about it. I know im not gay, I don't even like looking at myself naked in a mirror let alone another guy. But this is all to new to me.
A bit confused here is all. If anyone has any advice I would love to hear it.
thanks

It's somewhat unclear as to what "advice" you "would love to hear," but I'm guessing since you posted in this thread you're concerned about the "gay" label.

I suggest you read this thread. Basically, you'll find people are in two main "camps" on this issue.

One camp includes those who are fretting about the "gay" label.

The other camp, in which I proudly include myself, doesn't give a damn what anyone else thinks, and rejects labels.

My advice is that you put yourself in the second camp, right away, and stop fretting. You are what you are, you like what you like, and who the hell cares what anyone else thinks.

jbhk197 06-05-2011 01:25 PM

Thanks SMC,
Im not gay, I know that, I love women as much as my one time thing that just happened. Was definetly a mind blowing experience is all. I cant seem to stop thinking of it and "her"
And other people....could care less. Hong Kong is full of self centered, materialistic followers that seem to have their head up their asses.
just musing/re-living the moment I guess you would call it.
For a one night thing it really had an effect on me is all. I keep going back to the same bar looking for her. Great person in general to be with not to mention the half drunken tumble in the sack that makes me keep looking for her.

smc 06-05-2011 01:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jbhk197 (Post 187184)
Thanks SMC,
Im not gay, I know that, I love women as much as my one time thing that just happened. Was definetly a mind blowing experience is all. I cant seem to stop thinking of it and "her"
And other people....could care less. Hong Kong is full of self centered, materialistic followers that seem to have their head up their asses.
just musing/re-living the moment I guess you would call it.
For a one night thing it really had an effect on me is all. I keep going back to the same bar looking for her. Great person in general to be with not to mention the half drunken tumble in the sack that makes me keep looking for her.

Well, let me give you one more piece of advice. Be careful about using "her" -- that is, putting quotation marks around the pronoun. If I were her, I might just be offended.

JodieTs 06-16-2011 05:16 AM

Anal sex
 
"When you have anal sex, it's gay male sex
but when I have anal sex it's a woman having anal sex,
because...


I have a girly bum" :rolleyes: :lol: :cool:

ila 06-16-2011 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 188283)
...I have a girly bum" :rolleyes: :lol: :cool:

And I have no doubt that it's a soft yet firm, beautiful, kissable, touchable bum. :yes::)

JodieTs 06-16-2011 06:05 PM

Oh yes
I love my bum.
& thank you. :kiss:

A few months, my surgeon {for FFS} suggested
a body fat repositioning procedure.
A friend underwent this at christmas and the results are stunning.
So when my surgeon started talking in a phone call, admittedly, about all the areas he could work on
when he mentioned my bum
I shrugged as it's exactly the way I like
which is a fluke of genetics with the later influence of estrogen over the last 6 years.

ganda 06-17-2011 10:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by guest (Post 783)
or better yet, are WE gay?

the thought of calling myself "bisexual" or gay annoys me because i don't like men at all.

so i was wondering if anyone has similar feelings, or can give me some advice?

If you only like post-ops and genetic girls you are not gay or bisexual, you are heterosexual.

But if you like pre-ops, and even more so if their having cocks is one of the main attractions, then you are gay or bisexual. It is not heterosexual for a male to find someone's having a cock part of the sexual attraction, whatever you do or don't do with it. (And it is not heterosexual for a male to want to shaft someone who has a cock up the ass!)

The fact that you would never let them top you is irrelevent, as some gays are just tops. And some gays just like feminine men, so just because you don't find masculinity sexually attractive (which I suspect is what you mean by "I don't like men at all") does not make you heterosexual. Nor does the fact that in the past you might have only found genetic girls attractive - sexual preferences can change.

The only way round your dilemma is to reject the gay/ straight distinction altogether, as I'm afraid that it just is a take it or leave it "either or" choice. Or (like me) to accept that you're gay or bisexual - because you cannot like pre-ops and still be purely heterosexual.

mitchellpoo 07-17-2011 12:08 AM

Dating transgender women
 
hey everyone im new to this thread and i have been having mixed feelings about my sexuality and i discovered i am attracted to the female features but i love anal sex i was just wondering if i am the only one out there and whether or not i am infact now gay :)
however i also have fantasies about being the girl etc

smc 07-17-2011 08:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mitchellpoo (Post 191144)
hey everyone im new to this thread and i have been having mixed feelings about my sexuality and i discovered i am attracted to the female features but i love anal sex i was just wondering if i am the only one out there and whether or not i am infact now gay :)
however i also have fantasies about being the girl etc

Read this thread. I hope it will convince you to stop worrying about this "gay" business and never ask the question again, because it could not matter less.

Melissa Pink 07-17-2011 08:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mitchellpoo (Post 191144)
hey everyone im new to this thread and i have been having mixed feelings about my sexuality and i discovered i am attracted to the female features but i love anal sex i was just wondering if i am the only one out there and whether or not i am infact now gay :)
however i also have fantasies about being the girl etc

This topic has been discussed extensively on this forum. Being attracted to pre-op transgendered ladies does not make you gay. I have many gay male friends and none of them are sexually attracted to me. Gay men are attracted to other men and never women, that is why they are gay and not bisexual.

There isn't anything abnormal about fantasizing about playing the "girl" role during sex. Lot's of "straight" guys enjoy receiving dildoes from GG's wearing a strap on. If you choose to receive a cock from a pre-op t-girl or even another male it's doesn't make you gay especially if you are still attracted to genetic girls. I believe that to a greater or lesser extend all people are bisexual. Do what feels right for you sexually. As long as it pleases you and doesn't harm you or your partner(s) you really can't go wrong.

Relax and have fun!

darklord666 07-19-2011 05:57 PM

That's a difficult question to answer. On the one hand I say no, liking trans-females doesn’t make you gay because they are females in look, feel, behaviour and attitude but on the other hand, I like my trans-females with huge cocks and a decent pair of balls. There's just no real way to separate a liking for 'cock' and 'homosexuality'.

Best not to dwell to much matters of social pigeonholing.

cumshooter69 08-05-2011 10:25 PM

I'd say no, but i'd also say your not straight either. I think Bisexual is the best answer overall. (There are always exceptions)

brainsexual 08-13-2011 03:54 PM

Who cares? Exactly what is "gay" anyway?

Lord.Steve 08-21-2011 12:02 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-A8G...ature=youtu.be

Watch this vid

demarkus 08-22-2011 05:06 PM

yo people, just joined, ive asked mysef this so many times, ive asked tgrls ive just fucked in the ass and swallowed their honey. Ask yourself this, how many actively gay guys do you know that fuck Trans? every tgirl ive fucked say they only ever end up fucking "STRAIGHT" men.

I'm not delusional, im clearly not straight, i like cock, i also like tits, pussy and most of all ass (minus the hair) I have never met a guy in real life ive wanted to fuck, i meet girls every day that i would love to fuck, if only some of them had a cock, life would be so good lol.

i dont know where i am on the gay/straght scale, somewhere between the two, dont really care.

i just like to fuck, lick,suck, cum, kiss, wank, whatever, if i fancy it ill fuck it, whatever sex it is, only god can judge me.

Ekarth 08-22-2011 11:25 PM

If two people are involved in a consensual sex then why do we need to label them straight,gay and bi?

Liking shemales doesn't make you gay and if someone thinks it that way he's letting his best years pass by, by not liking the shemales!

Enoch Root 08-22-2011 11:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ekarth (Post 194547)
If two people are involved in a consensual sex then why do we need to label them straight,gay and bi?

If only everyone took such a position.

boby6 08-23-2011 01:44 AM

first time I saw a shemale that I found attractive i thought it was so gay and didn't want to ever see one again. I was used to seeing basically hairy guys with bad makeup and a wig before which I do not like at all, but when I saw a smooth, skinny ladyboy with fake tits my mind changed. I searched a bit more and have found there are soo many insanely hot ones out there. I, like most guys out there am attracted to the body shape with the curves in the right spots. I do not like guys at all, but if there is a hot girl who just happens to have a cock than that is fine with me. I do not think it makes you gay at all.

JodieTs 08-24-2011 12:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lord.Steve (Post 194344)

Thank you so much for posting that vid on the findings on two neuroscientists research on the very core of this dire thread.

Here is a link to their site: billionwickedthoughts.com
and their book on Amazon:Amazon.com/Billion-Wicked-Thoughts-Largest-Experiment

uklo 08-30-2011 04:07 PM

I haven't read this long thread, I just want to post my opinion on this matter. I actually don't care what other people think, I know that I'm not gay. I like genetic women too, so even in the strictest sense (the "you can't be straight if you like cock"-definition) I'm at least bisexual.

In my eyes a woman is a woman regardless what's between her legs, as long as she acts, looks and feels like a woman. So even if I would liked transgendered girls exclusively, I would still be straight with my definition. You're only gay if you only like men.

zmurcht 08-30-2011 04:43 PM

straight/gay is a very black and white kinda way of looking at things. i dont think it makes a man gay if he likes shemales. but also a lot of gay guys (and, yes, i have a lot of gay friends) like to be very feminine or find that attractive in their partner. but they are still guys and like male features. it all comes down to where you draw the line by yourself in the definition of being straight/gay. there is no "general" conclusion that will work for everyone.

and in the end it actually doesnt matter that much. just do what you like and enjoy. no need to put a label on everything...

Enoch Root 08-30-2011 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 194689)
Thank you so much for posting that vid on the findings on two neuroscientists research on the very core of this dire thread.

Here is a link to their site: billionwickedthoughts.com
and their book on Amazon:Amazon.com/Billion-Wicked-Thoughts-Largest-Experiment

That was really interesting. Thanks for the link Jodie.

patrick10122 09-02-2011 03:44 AM

never been attracted to sheep or lambs but to get on topic it depends on your outlook if I was in a relationship with a transsexual I would say either bi or hetero depending on how they would view our relationship

Pikachu1989 09-03-2011 01:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smc (Post 195387)
Thanks for the helpful reinforcement of the use of the term "gay" as an insult, even when meant in jest. Just what we need. :no:

I didn't mean to offend anyone. It's just that the quarterback that played for the packers for 16 years turned his back and played for the arch rival Vikings for 2 years. Anyways if this offended anyone I'm sorry:(. I'll try not to make "Gay" in a offensive way.

jsoze2288 09-03-2011 03:53 AM

there is nothing wrong with being gay. im bi sexual i like women and men a like, we are only humans in the end and have to be comfortable with ourselves and who we are:heart:

uklo 09-03-2011 02:51 PM

Just in case anyone got wrong impression from my previous post, I don't have anything against gay people.:respect:

That said, does liking women regardless of them being transgendered or genetic make me gay? Of course not.

Pied 09-09-2011 01:34 PM

No
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by guest (Post 783)
or better yet, are WE gay?

ok so for about a year now i've been extremely turned on by shemales (obviously or i wouldn't be here right now)... but i'm also very attracted to women. i really like the thought of a hard cock and large balls on a very feminine type of girl, it really turns me on. but i am confused because i see these shemales as girls, even though they have dicks. i am also very opposed to the idea of a dick in my ass, i really think it's sick and would never do it, but i would love to stick mine in a shemale. the thought of calling myself "bisexual" or gay annoys me because i don't like men at all. i don't have fantasies about wearing wemon's clothing or anything like that.. the only doubt about myself i have is my love for a women with a long hard cock. i can't talk about this to anyone personally becuase they will think i'm gay, and everyone close to me is opposed to gay things.. especially my friends, because i'm still in high school, and let's just say i'm probably younger than everyone here.

so i was wondering if anyone has similar feelings, or can give me some advice?

I know I am not gay. Yes the sex is gay in nature but it does not make you gay. I worried about this when I first met my GF. Then I tried to do it with a man. Complete turn off. I tried sex with a GG. I was fine with that.
I prefer a TS over a GG. I like the way they think. I enjoy their company.

TgirlReviews 09-17-2011 06:00 AM

Here is my opinion on it for whatever it is worth:)

Gay guys usually like guys, they like the smell of guys, the look of guys, the frame, the voice whatever.... most Gay Guys have no interested in a tgirl as she looks feminine, acts feminine, prefers straight guys and is totally waht they are not interested in. I am not saying all gay guys and I am not saying all tgirls, but I think the majority of Gay Guys want guys that looks like guys and the majority of Tgirls want Guys that act and consider themselves straight.

Remember most tgirls believe they are in the wrong body, they believe in their heart they are girls and that is why they take these steps to begin with, whether you agree with that is up to you but calling a Tgirl a dude or a guy will give you a quick shot to the head I would think.

There is no doubt about it the girl cock is an attraction for those that like tgirls, does that mean your gay? well it means you like cock that is for sure and you also like the feminine form, perhaps if anything you are rocking the bisexual side of things... I have zero interest in guys, I like girls and tgirls, in fact I find tgirls even more sexual then girls most of the time. Girls spend all their time trying to fit into a man society as equals perhaps they have lost some of the sexuality we so desire. Guys are visual creatures to start, when we see a hot girl or tgirl we cant help desire it, some will resist the tgirl and others will dive right in, it is a personal choice.

To finish off the rambling the tough part is Western Society. They are very closed minded in a "3rd Gender" as one may call it. They are getting better but are far off from Asian and European countries. You will find that your friends, family, strangers many of them will assume you are gay right out of the gate if you say you like Tgirls, probably cause they first picture a football player with a wig and a dress and dont really understand the mentality of it. Personally only a few close friends i know that could handle it know about my desires, not everyone is open minded and even those that might love tgirls in a private life might be negative to you in public as to keep their own desires even more private.

anyway that is my 2 cents, agree with it, hate it, whatever... I was not trying to offend anyone just in case someone thinks that..personally i think it is cool for people to do whatever they so desire as long as it doesnt hurt anyone or of course if it doesnt involve the young... some lines should never be crossed.

cheers

TgirlReviews 09-17-2011 06:35 AM

Problem is with something like this is everyone will have their opinion on what you are... best not to dwell on it.. for me I consider my self straight, act it, look it etc.. yes I like girls with cocks so if you want to call me bi I can deal with that as well... I dont see gay in my own personal definition. I am never turned on by any guy i see and have nothing against those that do.. i got gay friends, straight friends and tgirl friends, its all good.

On some older Tgirl Chat channels I use to hear a lot that you are not gay or bi if you dont let the Tgirl enter you ass haha... like that is the big step into gay hood, like i said it is all a mater of perception


I also agree with your everyone is gay statement in a sense, I think everyone has bisexual feelings it might be as little as 2% or as high as 100% you can deny it all you want but we are sexual creatures it is in our nature to think, feel, act on such things, some will go extreme, some will never think about it at all...

Long live all girls whether they have a special surprise or not!

JodieTs 09-17-2011 08:21 AM

For the record: I like popcorn http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/s...ic/popcorn.gif

FlacoPro 09-17-2011 08:05 PM

When I first got on this forum I thought of myself as 100% straight, then later on I thought of myself as Bi. Nowadays, I just think of myself as gay. If I have daily fantasies of T-girls fucking me and cumming on my face then I must be gay. I'm still not attracted to men in anyway, but I don't know how I could be straight with the kind of fantasies I have. Anyway, this is just my personal opinion.

Ekarth 09-21-2011 03:29 AM

I would not stop liking shemales even if that makes me the gayest gay man in the entire universe.

bigtrucker92 09-21-2011 04:36 PM

Amen, It doesn't matter what label you use or what someone else calls you. If you are happy with your life, not ashamed about your desires, then just enjoy life. It's too short to worry about other individuals' thoughts. I love ladyboys, shemales and women. Just enjoy!!

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Originally Posted by gizmo (Post 808)
mate, dont worry too much about the gay/straight issue!
What ever you do, is fine if it make's you happy,
and does'nt harm anyone. I know you are confused now
but as you get older, you will decide for yourself, and what
your friend's think, wont be so important. Enjoy!


smc 09-21-2011 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by bigtrucker92 (Post 197179)
Amen, It doesn't matter what label you use or what someone else calls you. If you are happy with your life, not ashamed about your desires, then just enjoy life. It's too short to worry about other individuals' thoughts. I love ladyboys, shemales and women. Just enjoy!!

Given the words in bold, I encourage you to read our sticky thread about ungendering. There is no differentiation in gender among these -- they are ALL WOMEN!

randolph 10-10-2011 07:11 PM

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What I am about to say does not refer to the lovely intelligent transsexuals that post on this forum. They are special people that I fully respect.
I want to talk about the inner sexual feelings that attracted me to this forum to discuss what can be regarded as unusual sexual urges and fantasies.

These are my conclusions and opinions and I don't expect a lot of agreement.


The attached images of the lovely femboy Cartoon, before he got "her" boobs got me thinking about what it means to be gay.

After being on the forum for years, I have come to difficult conclusions. First, it was a shock to realize that the beautiful shemales that I fantasize about do not want to be "hung" shemales, most of them want to transition to having female genitalia even some of the famous porn stars want to do it. The genitalia attributes that make her so attractive are not desired by her. So where does that leave my sexual fantasies? I am saddened to realize that the beautiful shemales that I love and wish to experience sucking their lovely shecocks do not have the same view of their genitalia as I do. In fact most transsexuals would like to get rid of their male genitalia, they want a female pussey.
Second, it’s time for me to open my mind to what I am and what I want. Do I really want sex with a shemale that is no longer capable of cumming or even having an erection? Don't I really want someone with fully functional male genitalia capable of hard horny cumming? I think what I want is not a hormone loaded impotent shemale but a pretty boy with a nice fully functional cock that I can love and suck and enjoy load after lode of sweet cum. That is what I really want. So face it, I am GAY! If I want to suck cock, I am GAY. If I want to be fucked by cock, I am GAY. So be it! Finally admitting that I am gay is a very liberating experience, I can now relax and enjoy what I really want, lots of horny cock sucking/fucking sex.
Save up your money and head to Pattaya and find some fully functional femboys "ladyboys" and spend night after night doing what you always wanted to do suck a cum filled "ladyboy" cock, fuck and be fucked.
Hey, hey, It's OK being GAY! ;)

tslust 10-10-2011 11:36 PM

I'm not sure if I've posted this here before or not.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mY711HJK7pg

"We're all gay, it's just to what extent are you gay."

ben1971 10-11-2011 09:44 PM

Everybody has their own feelings and so do I. First of all who cares what other people say or put labels on. Each individual likes what they like, I myself is attracted to females and tgirls. Always like the sensual ways of beautiful girls and more lately have the curiousity of tgirls. Maybe its the thought of having ass play(on me) with my girlfriend that excites me or the fact that taboo sex really intriques me. Anyway, fuck people who judge other people, let us enjoy what we like. By the way my ultimate fantasy is being fuck by a hot Tgirl while a hot girl sits on my face. dick and pussy united.

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Originally Posted by FlacoPro (Post 196847)
When I first got on this forum I thought of myself as 100% straight, then later on I thought of myself as Bi. Nowadays, I just think of myself as gay. If I have daily fantasies of T-girls fucking me and cumming on my face then I must be gay. I'm still not attracted to men in anyway, but I don't know how I could be straight with the kind of fantasies I have. Anyway, this is just my personal opinion.

I had the same thoughts. If am gay or not. We enjoy shemales, big deal. Some people enjoy sick and illegal things that harm other people, we enjoy pleasing other adults who have the same desires

mikelancealot 11-20-2011 08:59 PM

I have to say that I gave this some thought. I initially thought I am bisexual. However, I am into girls like Kimber James when it comes to ladyboys -- I love Asian ladies as well. I am not into men's bodies or hairy guys or muscular guys. When I see guys at the gym I get no sense of attraction to them. I doubt that this means I am gay or bisexual. I would suck dick, but I am not into the idea of being fucked by a ladyboy. I doubt this makes me gay, maybe a little bi? Not sure.

smc 11-20-2011 09:52 PM

Oh, well, the month-plus of inactivity in this thread was nice while it lasted. Just sayin' ... ;)


bigtrucker92 11-28-2011 07:07 PM

ok
I stand corrected

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 197199)
Given the words in bold, I encourage you to read our sticky thread about ungendering. There is no differentiation in gender among these -- they are ALL WOMEN!


Sophie Sparkles 11-29-2011 07:31 PM

I wouldn't say so, no. I mean, obviously it isn't right at the furthest 'straight' end of the spectrum, but it's not as far over as homosexual - males sexualy interested in males and masculinity.

Sophie.

the_bo 12-09-2011 11:01 AM

I don't feel I am gay for liking ladyboys. I see it as just apperciating woman in all their forms!

Ibuymp3s 12-09-2011 08:28 PM

i feel you man. i got into trannies when i was 18 in high school, and this was the biggest question i have. youre not gay or bi. you just like trannies. its a unique taste, i guess.

Florian 12-13-2011 09:28 PM

So what?
1) Homosexuality is legal in most cultures.
2) In Greek and Roman times a man would marry to produce children, but if he wanted some extra fun would find himself a teenage boy.
3) If we're to believe Freud, then self/mother/same sex/opp. sex love is somewhat flexible.
4) If you're a guy at a nudist beach/bathroom/changing room - don't you look at the other guys' dicks?
Gay/straight - don't be so suburban!

smc 12-14-2011 05:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Florian (Post 203183)
So what?
1) Homosexuality is legal in most cultures.
2) In Greek and Roman times a man would marry to produce children, but if he wanted some extra fun would find himself a teenage boy.
3) If we're to believe Freud, then self/mother/same sex/opp. sex love is somewhat flexible.
4) If you're a guy at a nudist beach/bathroom/changing room - don't you look at the other guys' dicks?
Gay/straight - don't be so suburban!

WTF does "don't be so suburban" mean? :confused:

Florian 12-14-2011 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 203201)
WTF does "don't be so suburban" mean? :confused:

From the movie "Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back".
The point is that putting labels on people quickly creates boundaries and limits.

smc 12-14-2011 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Florian (Post 203214)
From the movie "Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back".
The point is that putting labels on people quickly creates boundaries and limits.

So, characterizing someone's views as "suburban" isn't putting a label on that person? ;)

Florian 12-16-2011 05:29 AM

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 203217)
So, characterizing someone's views as "suburban" isn't putting a label on that person? ;)

Describing anyone as anything is a "label", the whole point in the movie was Jay and Silent Bob shouldn't reject something out of prejudice. He was telling them NOT to be suburban, to be more willing to... hitchhike? It was a comedy after all.

James777 06-13-2012 12:42 PM

Am I gay?
 
Hi all,

I'm sure this is quite a common topic of discussion, but I am quite confused about this. Firstly I very much like girls, however I am very turned on by Ladyboys. I am attracted to feminine looking ladyboys, and am very turned on by their cocks. To clarify I don't find men attractive just ladyboys with big hard cocks. :turnon:

When I watch Trans porn, I only like watching stuff where the Tgirls penetrate the guys, and put it in the guys mouths. I fantasise about being in their place receiving it in my ass and mouth and having them cum in me. That really turns me on, but only Tgirls not men.

What does that make me???

Dhobi 06-13-2012 02:11 PM

I have loved tgirls for many years - in fact I like all women. I have never considered myself gay for I do not fancy men. Tgirls are feminine, soft and sweet - women in every sense but with something extra. I have always respected tgirls for they know who they are and what they want to be - not always easy in a world like ours.

EdwardSinclair 06-13-2012 06:01 PM

I'm also not too content with labeling oneself one thing or the other! It doesn't really mean anything to be proud of being something you have no control over! You should be proud in your personal achievements not in being gay, or black, or whatever similar stuff people parade about. It just seems silly to me.

I say that it's alright to be and do as you like, as long as you are not harming a third party (without their consent, I put this in bracket because some people are into that fetish, I don't judge ;) )

If you commit crimes you deserve to be labelled a 'criminal'.

ila 06-13-2012 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by James777 (Post 215920)
Hi all,

I'm sure this is quite a common topic of discussion, but I am quite confused about this. Firstly I very much like girls, however I am very turned on by Ladyboys. I am attracted to feminine looking ladyboys, and am very turned on by their cocks. To clarify I don't find men attractive just ladyboys with big hard cocks. :turnon:

When I watch Trans porn, I only like watching stuff where the Tgirls penetrate the guys, and put it in the guys mouths. I fantasise about being in their place receiving it in my ass and mouth and having them cum in me. That really turns me on, but only Tgirls not men.

What does that make me???

I would say that makes you a person that wants a woman to put her cock in you; nothing more and nothing less. Best wishes in fulfilling your desires. :yes:

smc 06-13-2012 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by EdwardSinclair (Post 215931)
I'm also not too content with labeling oneself one thing or the other! It doesn't really mean anything to be proud of being something you have no control over! You should be proud in your personal achievements not in being gay, or black, or whatever similar stuff people parade about. It just seems silly to me.

I say that it's alright to be and do as you like, as long as you are not harming a third party (without their consent, I put this in bracket because some people are into that fetish, I don't judge ;) )

If you commit crimes you deserve to be labelled a 'criminal'.

With all due respect, I think that you completely miss the point of gay pride, or black pride, "or whatever similar stuff people parade about." It is a way to show community and solidarity in the face of oppression. And it is eminently supportable.

jmshemalelover 06-13-2012 06:35 PM

Depends on who you ask. If you ask the Catholic Church and Reverend Jimmy Swaggert, or even Billy Graham, they will say you are.

Most of the people here will say no.

Then, if you are asking others this question on the forum, it would mean to me that you are excited about showing off your sexuality to others, especially when your new to this scene.

aw9725 06-13-2012 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by James777 (Post 215920)
Hi all,

I'm sure this is quite a common topic of discussion, but I am quite confused about this. Firstly I very much like girls, however I am very turned on by Ladyboys. I am attracted to feminine looking ladyboys, and am very turned on by their cocks. To clarify I don't find men attractive just ladyboys with big hard cocks. :turnon:

When I watch Trans porn, I only like watching stuff where the Tgirls penetrate the guys, and put it in the guys mouths. I fantasise about being in their place receiving it in my ass and mouth and having them cum in me. That really turns me on, but only Tgirls not men.

What does that make me???

Entirely normal. :cool:

cumshooter69 06-13-2012 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by aw9725 (Post 215938)
Entirely normal. :cool:

I think that is the best answer of them all....:cool:

JodieTs 06-13-2012 07:48 PM

Own up.
Whose favourite film is Top Gun?


Melissa Pink 06-15-2012 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by JodieTs (Post 215942)
Own up.
Whose favourite film is Top Gun?


Hahahahahaha! :eek: Great post Jodie!

Yup! Top Gun may have more gay metaphors than any "straight" movie to ever come out of Hollywood! Iceman and Maverick? Give me a break! LOL!

gobucks789 06-17-2012 05:37 PM

New to Ladyboys/Shemales I am Straight? Never messed around w a Man no desire to
 
I am a straight identified man, I have never been with another guy, and I am not turned on by mens bodies in the slightest. When I see athletic/muscled/hairy guys at the gym I am turned off and uninterested. I am really into ladyboys or shemales or whatever it is I should be refering to them as. I show respect to everyone but I don't think I am gay or bi. IS anyone else here this way?????

LadyboyJerker 06-17-2012 05:52 PM

Hello, gobucks789.

Well, many here are on the same principal as yours. Some are turned on by a cock which means they can be attracted to men but not because they are the same gender but because of the penis. What I mean is, that for now you truly believe that you are turned on only by a shemale/transsexual/ladyboy etc. But after some time you could find yourself turned on by a penis. You may not like how the men look but once they're naked and you see their hard cock you can think of it more intimately. After all, as long as you are attracted by boobs, tits, pussy, you are straight on this but the likeness of cocks may make be a bi-sexual. This means you are attracted to both genders. You can define yourself by exploring more of your interests and by giving your lust a result, some action. But for now, no you're not gay. You can be a bi-sexual but for now you're thinking only shemales, I believe.

Lynn76 06-22-2012 08:13 AM

I'd say first off don't worry about a category or label.I'd say we are past that and evolved.

testbed 06-23-2012 05:36 PM

In reference to the question for the title of this thread; does it really matter?

picturetrade 06-25-2012 09:28 AM

Just wanted to chime in w/ my 2??sexuality and gender I.D. Is such a complicated subject. I think that in the next 20 years, most of these complicated "labels" that Christian society wants to put on everything will disappear. The way I see it is that there is "masculine" and "feminine" and that is completely seperate from the amount of X and Y chromosomes you have and it can change for each person at any time.

I consider myself masculine and I am attracted to feminine. I love feminine women and men. Having a penis or vagina does not matter to me. There are some times I like to pretend to be feminine, though not convincingly, for sexual fun. I would never think of trying to be feminine full time as it is just not who I am.

This has always been confusing to me until lately because I am completely in interested in "men" sexually but when a feminine guy has a pretty face, throws on a skirt and stockings, and is naturally feminine, I am all in. Even with a strong attraction to these feminine men I never have considered myself "gay" I it really irritates me when people try to label me as gay.

ila 06-25-2012 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by picturetrade (Post 216637)
Just wanted to chime in w/ my 2??sexuality and gender I.D. Is such a complicated subject. I think that in the next 20 years, most of these complicated "labels" that Christian society wants to put on everything will disappear. The way I see it is that there is "masculine" and "feminine" and that is completely seperate from the amount of X and Y chromosomes you have and it can change for each person at any time.

Do you really think that it's only Christians who give labels to others?

CCC 06-25-2012 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ila (Post 216679)
Do you really think that it's only Christians who give labels to others?

That is exactly what I was thinking. Never mind Jewish peoples etc--how about Muslims--they would likely slice and dice your dick while you watched.

jmadaf 06-25-2012 11:35 PM

gay
 
I don't think just liking shemales makes you gay, but with me I love to suck cock,:lol: but I also love someone beautiful and sexy, so you could say I'm bi, because I suck sissyboy cock too,:turnon: or femboys. But shemales are at the top of my list:inlove::inlove:

davidovich 06-26-2012 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by CCC (Post 216692)
That is exactly what I was thinking. Never mind Jewish peoples etc--how about Muslims--they would likely slice and dice your dick while you watched.

It is shameful that someone gets to post a racist stereotype like this. I know Muslims who support marriage equality and LGBT rights, and the post was about labeling, not violence.

funksexual 06-26-2012 02:34 PM

Not necessarily. I like the fact that if you're turned on by any beautiful person be it a man or woman or ladyboy/transsexual that it just means you're fluid in your sexuality. Not that it's wrong thinking it may make you gay but I don't think it does. Just my two cents. :)

dan 07-07-2012 08:07 AM

I of course would answer NO with almost all of you. But i suppose in the end, the whole question is about semantics, an exercise in which we can loose a life of mouth twisting acrobatics.
Anyone heard about the Kinsey scale ? As you probably pretty much all already know, Alfred Kinsey is an entomologist who decided to start researching sexuality in the US in the 40s. He definitly was the greatest precursor to the sexual revolution in the Western World, from which we all benefit on this very forum. The two reports he published revealed facts nobody could then possibly envisioned about the sexual practices of americans.
Anyways he created a scale which illustrated the potential sexual orientation of individuals. It is divided in six vertical columns, the first one to the left representing people exclusively heterosexuals, the one to the extreme right people exclusively homosexuals. Now the four remaining columns were of course to represent what's left in between: the second one to the left, people who for instance had gay fantasies at time, or one or a few gay experiences in their youth, in other words those who were, as he said, more or less "incidently" gay, and so on in a gradual progression to the column next to the last at right, which designated people with only more or less limited experiences in heterosexuality. Kinsey found that a surprisingly moderate proportion of the population fitted, according to age, in either of the two extremities. The bulk of it belonged to the four remaining ones. In other words, a majority of people had at least some kind of inclinations towards bisexuality !

What seems to me even more interresting about that scale is the indeniable fact (still denied nontheless to this day by moronic, thight asses moral extremists) that nothing is either black and white when it comes to human sexuality; everything is blissfully grey. And in the end it's so much like us, human beings. It's part of our beauty ! such diversity and creativity, such differences !
Don't know why we constantly have to make it the root of our dissensions...

(I simplified things a bit, here. I have to admit i'm not sure i understand enough Kinsey's methodology to explain it remotly properly in english. In any case, here's the link to the scale at Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale -I'm sorry i'm not pc cleaver enough neither to post it here myself).

ila 07-07-2012 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by danthepoetman (Post 217722)
I simplified things a bit, here. I have to admit i'm not sure i understand enough Kinsey's methodology to explain it remotly properly in english. In any case, here's the link to the scale at Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale -I'm sorry i'm not pc cleaver enough neither to post it here myself).

Here you are dan:

The Kinsey Scale


Rating Description

0 Exclusively heterosexual

1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual

2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual

3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual

4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual

5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual

6 Exclusively homosexual

X Non-sexual

And attached is a graph representation of the same.

svartekaptenen 07-07-2012 11:37 AM

I do not consider myself homosexual even if I am dating a transwoman,
I like breasts and she has them. Funny thing though I was in New York
in 2002 and in a bar I encountered a homosexual couple that told me they
were gay, I as a non English speaker thought they meant that they were
happy and joyful so I asked them any particular reason which rendered
me a strange look.

dan 07-07-2012 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ila (Post 217730)
Here you are dan:
The Kinsey Scale

Exactly that, ila. Thanks a lot for the help !

jmadaf 07-07-2012 02:45 PM

gay
 
I loved sucking cock ever since puberty,:turnon: if the cock is atached to a beautiful sexy feminine body that's all the more sweeter for me.:turnon: Gay I don't care if I am or not I love shemales.:inlove:

smc 07-07-2012 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by danthepoetman (Post 217722)
I of course would answer NO with almost all of you. But i suppose in the end, the whole question is about semantics, an exercise in which we can loose a life of mouth twisting acrobatics. ...

I want to make clear that what I am writing here is not to criticize danthepoetman's use of the word "semantics," but because his use of the word has suggested that some clarity is in order.

This word "semantics" has, over the centuries, become misused in popular parlance. I make this point because what danthepoetman says is "about semantics" -- assumedly referring to different word choices that cannot be resolved because different people use words different ways (the typical meaning of the phrase "a question of semantics") -- has real consequences in real life.

Semantics is a branch of my academic field, linguistics, and it is about meaning. It is the study of what things mean. Those things are words, phrases, symbols, and signs. Semanticists study what they denote, or stand for. In linguistics, we use semantics to understand how humans express meaning through their language.

When the phrase "semantic question" is used colloquially, it more often than not is describing that humans cannot agree on meaning because of word selection. The problem with the popular use of the phrase is that it is also more often than not used to dismiss further discussion on the assumption that it is mere word choices (of, assumedly, broadly defined synonyms) that constitute the difference, and not really meaning. (That's why you will often hear the use of the phrase accompanied by "we mean the same thing" or "I think we're talking past each other").

Therein lies the problem in what danthepoetman writes. It is the same problem I have raised in this thread over and again. Words do matter, especially labeling words, and labeling words that are associated with human prejudices (e.g., gay, transsexual, etc.). matter perhaps even more. These words are used to dismiss and discriminate against others. They are used to subjugate humans and subvert rights. It is not a "question of semantics" in the way that phrase is used in popular parlance, to dismiss differences in choices of words that mean essentially the same thing

I wrote some time ago in this thread:

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Originally Posted by smc (Post 196793)
I'll say it before and I'll say it again: I don't give a flying fuck what anyone calls me with respect to my sexuality, and I have no interest in spending time trying to come up with a label for myself. I think it is a colossal waste of intellectual energy.

The only thing that matters to me is in this regard is that no one should go around labeling other people. It doesn't matter to me what I'm called, but for those to whom it does matter it should never be the case that their self-determined identity is undermined. Period.

I've been thinking about this in the context of danthepoetman's "semantic question." More than ever, I believe that it is imperative that each of us recognize the tremendous stakes involved in labeling. I love this post from svartekaptenen:

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Originally Posted by svartekaptenen (Post 217731)
I do not consider myself homosexual even if I am dating a transwoman,
I like breasts and she has them. Funny thing though I was in New York
in 2002 and in a bar I encountered a homosexual couple that told me they
were gay, I as a non English speaker thought they meant that they were
happy and joyful so I asked them any particular reason which rendered
me a strange look.

I love it for two reasons. One is that the language confusion over the multiple meanings of "gay" is just plain fun, from a linguist's point of view. But the other is that svartekaptenen writes "I do not consider myself homosexual ..." He self-determines his sexual preference, as it should be. If homosexuality is defined as sexual attraction to the same gender, and he is a man, then there is no way that dating a transwoman is an act of homosexuality, since a transwoman is a woman and svartekaptenen is a man. Is it, then, heterosexuality? Well, if that is defined as sexual attraction to a different gender, the answer would seem to be an obvious yes. But in the end, what matters is only what svartekaptenen thinks about himself.

Unfortunately, society is not so yielding. We will all be better off when it is, and sexuality is defined not in terms of labels but in terms of, for want of a better phrase, nothing. When discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is non-existent, there will be no need for any labels. They are primarily for drawing differences so that discriminatory behavior can be enabled. Some day (we can dream), humans will simply be defined as sexual beings, and where we fall on the spectrum will be as inconsequential (other than for our own personal reasons) as whether we have long or short fingers. (Okay, I admit finger length has consequences if you play certain musical instruments. ;))

Rivera 07-07-2012 11:46 PM

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Not gay ... just love :turnon:'s and great art ! :respect:

dan 07-08-2012 02:03 AM

Post #700.
 
[I won't quote that long #700 post which i here refer to]
smc, you understand precisely what i mean and i wholeheartedly agree with everything that follows in your post. Thank you for making up for my shortcommings in english, which i repeat is not my mother tongue nor my usual language of expression (i also made svartekaptenen's funny confusion the first time). The syntactic elegance of your thoughts expresses much more explicitly what i was awkwardly trying to say, even by bringing up the Kinsey scale, and of course, it expresses even much more.
Intolerance or rather should i say, a lack of acceptance is the root of the problem, but since it is so widespread in our still hypocritical (see the scale) society, you are absolutly right that we need to insist on the meaning of words relating to people's values and choices as not only to show respect and understanding but as to establish it in language. Needless to say here i did not intend to diminish in any way such a field of study as liguistic, knowing how much efforts scholarly achievments requires.

(Must say, though, i now feel a bit embarrassed having needed the help of two mods to make a point...)

PS. You can just call me "dan". "Poetman" is the domain i've inherrited from my proud ancestral family, and "the" is the nobility particle. But i'm not a snob for that matter... ;)

sr8_curious 08-23-2012 03:32 PM

it bothers me too
 
I feel attracted and excited fancying being fucked hard by shemales however have n interest in men.. that leaves me confused @ times.. :coupling:

sevwon 08-24-2012 08:57 AM

honestly i don't care what it makes me... i don't care what anyone thinks about what i've done. i live life like this: if you want to do something do it...

when i was 18 i wanted to fuck a dude... so i did and loved it... does that make me gay? i don't think so because it's purely sexual, i define gay as being romantically attached to the same sex...

when i was 22 i wanted to fuck a shemale (well i've always wanted to) and thankfully my first shemale was drop dead gorgeous with a nice big dick... great fuck such a turn on, had me hooked. if i had to choose between being with a woman for the rest of my life or a shemale, considering they were the same person character wise... i'd choose a shemale 10/10 times

atey771 08-24-2012 10:40 AM

Likewise I feel the same.
 
I think I would enjoy a trans in my relationship. I can say for sure I have never looked at a man the way I look at a t-girl. Problem is I would like to find some so I can see if it feels right having a relationship. So far my success of finding one dismal at best.

ncguy 08-27-2012 04:51 PM

No it dosen't make you gay. I love women, maybe too much... I have to watch myself as I have some ladies in the family I have had sex with and others I would love to have sex with (as well as women outside the family...just sayin'), but I am attracted to ladyboys as well! Just letting you know a lot of people I've met have other kinks and fetishes along with wanting a gurl to cum down your throat. Something about a feminine body with a hard cock that, well, makes me wanna jump on 'em!:coupling:


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