Trans Ladyboy Forum

Go Back Trans Ladyboy Forum > Chat About Shemales
Register Forum Rules Members List Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read Bookmark & Share

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 07-29-2008
fatjeffrey fatjeffrey is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 45
fatjeffrey is on a distinguished road
Default Dislike of smales after masturbation?

Whenever im with a gg, after having sex with her.... i actually enjoy to hold her...and think about her.etc
same thing after masturbation over ggs, i like to carry on thinking about them...

but something really turns me off about shemales after i have cum, i guess u could call it a guilt...i dont even want to think about them one bit (im not being mean its just how my mindset works) but i dont want to feel really awkward if i ever hav a shemale experience (like what the hell am i doing here?!?!)...

does anyone else feel the same?
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 07-29-2008
Bionca's Avatar
Bionca Bionca is offline
Ms Tranny Manners
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Here and There, USA
Posts: 1,117
Bionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to behold
Default

well being on the other end of that "awkward feeling" COMPLETELY sucks. I'd say do yourself and any Tg partner you may have in the future a favor and get comfortable with your own desires before you expolre them with a human being with actual feelings.

Not trying to be mean or anything just my mindset.
__________________
- I hate being braver than the guys I date.
- Yes, it's me in the avatar
Blog: http://laughriotgirl.wordpress.com/
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 07-29-2008
tonywaits's Avatar
tonywaits tonywaits is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 312
tonywaits has a spectacular aura abouttonywaits has a spectacular aura abouttonywaits has a spectacular aura about
Cool

Do you cry when you masturbate too?
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 07-29-2008
jimnaseum jimnaseum is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
jimnaseum has a spectacular aura aboutjimnaseum has a spectacular aura about
Default

I'm sure the psychology of pornography has been written about extensively, Jeff, I just look at the pictures, though. I know exactly what you mean.
If sex sells, then sexual anxiety sells over and over.
Here's some sublimal fun.
Attached Thumbnails
subliminaladvertising3zz3.jpg  

Last edited by jimnaseum; 07-29-2008 at 10:29 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 07-30-2008
fatjeffrey fatjeffrey is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 45
fatjeffrey is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Bionca View Post
well being on the other end of that "awkward feeling" COMPLETELY sucks. I'd say do yourself and any Tg partner you may have in the future a favor and get comfortable with your own desires before you expolre them with a human being with actual feelings.

Not trying to be mean or anything just my mindset.
its nothing about being comfortable with my desires... and i wasnt trying to mean at all...

i think "guilt" was the wrong word entirely.... i know what i want and what i like... im just saying its a wierd feeling and i dont know why i get it..... and also i can understand why it could hurt someone thats why i am trying to address it here.... i wouldnt get into a relationship if i knew prior that i would hurt anyone in it...
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 07-30-2008
ocinteeni's Avatar
ocinteeni ocinteeni is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: naaa dood! its a secret... well in california
Posts: 253
ocinteeni will become famous soon enoughocinteeni will become famous soon enough
Lightbulb

Quote:

i think "guilt" was the wrong word entirely.... i know what i want and what i like... im just saying its a wierd feeling and i dont know why i get it.....
No I think guilt is the perfect word to describe what you are feeling. I have felt that way after cumming many times, not so much anymore. Over the years I have had to change my mindset from one that believed it was wrong for me to be attracted to transsexual women to one that knew it was ok. I believe the guilt can be a result from not wanting to disappoint your loved ones, like friends and family. I know for me I have always felt like if my family and friends knew of my true attraction they would disapprove and think less of me. This has conflicted with my attraction for transsexual women. And thats why when you are masturbating and your hormones and true feelings take over you disregard these ideas of disapproval and after you cum and its all over those ideas of your loved ones disapproval come rushing in and you feel awkward. Almost like your parents or friends have walked in on you jerking it to some tranny porno, but its truly your "after you cum mindset" that caught you in the act.

And I totally agree it would be unfair for the receiving end of this reaction. It is a personal dilemma that me and you have to deal with ourselves first before seeking out a transsexual relationship.

Maybe that helps, I know it is the mental dilemma I have faced. Perhaps you too...
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 07-30-2008
fatjeffrey fatjeffrey is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 45
fatjeffrey is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by ocinteeni View Post
No I think guilt is the perfect word to describe what you are feeling. I have felt that way after cumming many times, not so much anymore. Over the years I have had to change my mindset from one that believed it was wrong for me to be attracted to transsexual women to one that knew it was ok. I believe the guilt can be a result from not wanting to disappoint your loved ones, like friends and family. I know for me I have always felt like if my family and friends knew of my true attraction they would disapprove and think less of me. This has conflicted with my attraction for transsexual women. And thats why when you are masturbating and your hormones and true feelings take over you disregard these ideas of disapproval and after you cum and its all over those ideas of your loved ones disapproval come rushing in and you feel awkward. Almost like your parents or friends have walked in on you jerking it to some tranny porno, but its truly your "after you cum mindset" that caught you in the act.

And I totally agree it would be unfair for the receiving end of this reaction. It is a personal dilemma that me and you have to deal with ourselves first before seeking out a transsexual relationship.

Maybe that helps, I know it is the mental dilemma I have faced. Perhaps you too...
firstly a disclaimer.. im not trying to offend at all... im just speaking my mind


but you know...maybe ur right... i think most of the 'disgust' comes from me thinking too much, and thinking, they were men originally, and the thought of having sex with another man utterly disgusts me , especially as i dont find them attractive one bit, but an attractive shemale is very tempting...
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 07-30-2008
jimnaseum jimnaseum is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
jimnaseum has a spectacular aura aboutjimnaseum has a spectacular aura about
Default

Here's a twist.
Sucking a cock is actually pretty easy, just like bending your own finger back til it snaps would be pretty easy, once you got past the mental alarm process.
How many of you would blow a little sweetheart like Sweet Shemale but would balk at blowing a black shemale? What about the stigma there?
I've been thinking lately about a big black cock but I really have mixed feelings. I've been out with black girls, but black dick seems taboo, I'm American. I wonder if it tastes any different. I'm trying to get my head around it.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 07-30-2008
Bionca's Avatar
Bionca Bionca is offline
Ms Tranny Manners
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Here and There, USA
Posts: 1,117
Bionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to behold
Default

I had this huge post written about desire and guilt and social status and how that factored into relationshup of any sort with trans*women. The thing is, I wasn't able to word it in a way that didn't sound angry or attacking. I don't feel either of those things, but I think given my perspective it is hard not to come off that way.

Maybe this is one of those times when it's best to let the men speak....
__________________
- I hate being braver than the guys I date.
- Yes, it's me in the avatar
Blog: http://laughriotgirl.wordpress.com/
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 07-30-2008
panic669 panic669 is offline
Junior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 6
panic669 is on a distinguished road
Default

I agree with the Freudic analysis about guilt, social acceptance etc.It raises a dilemma when your subconciousness says "avoid cocks of men, shemales, even strapons" but your whole nervous system says "bring it on", especially if it's attached to a hot shemale body! I'm not being gay by mentioning men, I just want to show that this applies to more than one areas of desire.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 07-30-2008
jimnaseum jimnaseum is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
jimnaseum has a spectacular aura aboutjimnaseum has a spectacular aura about
Default

At the battle of Cold Harbor (I think) Gen Robert E Lee flanked the Yankees three times in one day and it was like murder. I was surprised to hear him say "It is good that war is so terrible or we could grow to like it too much"
If I had a date with Bionca, I'd have to respect her. Friendship is expensive these days!
I'm lately leaning toward finding a thin-ass black ho with a big cock and making her my obedient sex slave. Screw her feelings. When I perfect my cock sucking technique she'll cum to respect the White Man.
In other words, if I want to do something nice I'll adopt a third world baby via Unicef. If I want to get off bigtime, I'll get me a little bitch that needs to be slapped around a little bit. This PC crap is making us all sissies. I'm gonna go out and kill me somethin! (not literally)
Shemales shouldn't make men feel like jerk-offs.
They should make men feel like the most baddest cats in the jungle.
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 07-30-2008
Loki Loki is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 38
Loki is on a distinguished road
Default

I remember when I began watching shemale porn. At first it was just kind of a curiosity, which eventually led to masturbation. I recall a bit of guilt and awkwardness after orgasm. I have always considered myself straight and still do. I have never been attracted to men. So I can understand anyone that may feel a little confusion in the beginning. It did not take long for me to come to terms with my attraction to transsexuals. I am comfortable now with the fact that I am attracted to beautiful women who happen to have cocks.
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 07-30-2008
Bionca's Avatar
Bionca Bionca is offline
Ms Tranny Manners
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Here and There, USA
Posts: 1,117
Bionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to beholdBionca is a splendid one to behold
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimnaseum View Post
Shemales shouldn't make men feel like jerk-offs.
They should make men feel like the most baddest cats in the jungle.
Then men should stop being jerk-offs

You want to treat someone like a cheap whore, pay for it, do the deed and move on. No shame in that at all - just be honest with yourself and your partner so nobody gets hurt. That's not specifically directed at anyone.. just following the thought process.
__________________
- I hate being braver than the guys I date.
- Yes, it's me in the avatar
Blog: http://laughriotgirl.wordpress.com/
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 07-31-2008
jimnaseum jimnaseum is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 377
jimnaseum has a spectacular aura aboutjimnaseum has a spectacular aura about
Default

I went on Alt.com as a woman because women get all the perks for free, like seeing pictures and making contacts, while men have to pay for everything. But even I was amazed at what pigs men are. I'm a pig and it made me sick!!
But that's the game. The guy who created the site retired a multi-millionaire.
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 10-10-2008
Randal Flag Randal Flag is offline
Junior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 7
Randal Flag is on a distinguished road
Default

I know what you mean Jefferey. I got the same problem. But I have to say, true the years the guilt feeling has gone away for the most of it.
I never met a shemale. I would really love to but I am afraid the guilt is gone be to much. Because really making love to a shemale is not something you can ignore afterworths. It's true that we dont have to feel guilty about it. But is there anyway.
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old 10-10-2008
hankhavelock's Avatar
hankhavelock hankhavelock is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Indonesia
Posts: 936
hankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nice
Send a message via Yahoo to hankhavelock Send a message via Skype™ to hankhavelock
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by fatjeffrey View Post
its nothing about being comfortable with my desires... and i wasnt trying to mean at all...

i think "guilt" was the wrong word entirely.... i know what i want and what i like... im just saying its a wierd feeling and i dont know why i get it.....
Not a great mystery at all... your attraction to t-girls is purely sexual, and once you have your gratification it's over for a while.

Stick to bio-girls and if you need a tranny, go to a pro.
__________________
- I cherish the fact that the girls I date are braver than I
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old 10-10-2008
Justme Justme is offline
Junior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Ohio
Posts: 18
Justme is on a distinguished road
Send a message via Yahoo to Justme
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by hankhavelock View Post
Not a great mystery at all... your attraction to t-girls is purely sexual, and once you have your gratification it's over for a while.

Stick to bio-girls and if you need a tranny, go to a pro.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
__________________
"The body is an instrument, the mind its function, the witness and reward of its operation."
-George Santayana
Reply With Quote
  #18  
Old 10-10-2008
just102's Avatar
just102 just102 is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 149
just102 is on a distinguished road
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by tonywaits View Post
Do you cry when you masturbate too?

I lol'd
Reply With Quote
  #19  
Old 10-10-2008
The Conquistador's Avatar
The Conquistador The Conquistador is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: United Socialist State of California (U.S.S.C)
Posts: 1,307
The Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to beholdThe Conquistador is a splendid one to behold
Send a message via MSN to The Conquistador
Default The trick is...

To not give a fuck about what anyone else thinks. If you care about what others think of your desire for ts, you are gonna constantly rack yourself with guilt because of that want for acceptance from your friends and family. If you take control of yourself and do not let others influence what you like or want, the guilt goes away. You no longer hold yourself to someones standards; you are now beholden to yourself and if you only answer to you, and are comfortable with it, then you have no reason to feel guilty.
Reply With Quote
  #20  
Old 10-11-2008
ladyboyadmirer ladyboyadmirer is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: London but based in Frankfurt
Posts: 813
ladyboyadmirer is a glorious beacon of lightladyboyadmirer is a glorious beacon of lightladyboyadmirer is a glorious beacon of lightladyboyadmirer is a glorious beacon of lightladyboyadmirer is a glorious beacon of light
Default speaking our minds

Quote:
Originally Posted by fatjeffrey View Post
firstly a disclaimer.. im not trying to offend at all... im just speaking my mind ...
Yep Jeffrey, That's the very reason we join these forums, to speak our mind and to find answers to our questions. I didn't find your post at all offensive and I'm sure it wasn't taken as such. Some good replies made too. Regards
Reply With Quote
  #21  
Old 10-12-2008
pickseed pickseed is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 71
pickseed is on a distinguished road
Default

didn't read the other posts in this thread, fyi.

i've been in the same boat as you my friend. been with a shemale, and once i cum i've felt the feeling of.. what the fuck am i doing here with this person?
however. over time i've come to realize that it doesn't have anything to do with the 'type' of person you're with, and simply with the person you're with. "heterosexual" sex is just something that's been passed down over time because it's the only way to reproduce, and is totally natural. enjoying sex with someone of the opposite gender, while totally natural, is 'frowned' upon in normal society. just like many other things in life, things that you are 'supposed' to do, such as get married, have kids, etc.. are not actual life rules. they are man made rules that have been imposed upon everyone, and anyone who feels even the slightest differently is prone to succumb to shame and guilt. I am not in anyway different than you, in the sense that i am able to enjoy sexual pleasure with someone of the same sex (which is not 'normal', albeit i don't treat or imagine the other party as a 'man'.) while these facts remain, there is no ACTUAL reason to feel guilt/shame other than those imposed upon you by society in general. now, there are people who care enough about what others think of them to attempt to abolish any such thoughts and try and live a 'normal' life.. while others, accept who/what they are and embrace the things they truly care about and are passionate about. if you think about it, having a cock instead of a pussy is really not a ' BIG DEAL ' in terms of difference of sexuality. society (likely due to religion( different topic)) simply tells us so.

tired of typing, may add more later. also not proofread so i apologize for any retardedness in that paragraph.
Reply With Quote
  #22  
Old 10-15-2008
Percival's Avatar
Percival Percival is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Posts: 60
Percival is on a distinguished road
Default low feeling can be normal

Jeffery,
Ever since I was 12 I noticed a temporary low feeling after ejaculation, never understood it. With time you begin to remind yourself that it is merely for five minutes or so. As far as feelings of regret after an encounter, be it female or shemale, in my opinion it always depends on who the girl is. When it's a girl you adore, even though you're drained (and I hate that feeling!) you long to hold her and talk and laugh and share things for hours. When you don't care for her, instantly you realize what an idiot you've been and you want to leave---what my friend Lenny used to call a "runaway case." That's why it's really important to think your encounters through beforehand. I've noticed that my shemale experiences (which have been few) have been identical. I felt great with the ones I was proud to have been with and really liked and foolish after the ones that were obviously poor judgement on my part. I've found that shemales can really genuinely like you (and vice verse) in spite of the dubious way that you may have met them, and I think that keeps that "low feeling" to a minimum.
Reply With Quote
  #23  
Old 10-16-2008
sowman's Avatar
sowman sowman is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 102
sowman is on a distinguished road
Default

I was the same way. Its totally normal but you do become more comfortable over time.
Reply With Quote
  #24  
Old 10-16-2008
hankhavelock's Avatar
hankhavelock hankhavelock is offline
Senior Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Indonesia
Posts: 936
hankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nicehankhavelock is just really nice
Send a message via Yahoo to hankhavelock Send a message via Skype™ to hankhavelock
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by sowman View Post
I was the same way. Its totally normal but you do become more comfortable over time.
Sure, we have probably all experienced post-orgasmic regrets... how ever, if it consistantly is when with a transsexual woman, a pattern is emerging that should be taken seriously. I never had any such feelings when with a T-girl. I had it on other occasions, though.

My point is pretty straight-forward, and I sense that the initial poster has a problem with his attraction to T-girls that he needs to deal with before engaging in further sex with them - both for his and her sake.

It cannot just be explained away as a matter of no consequences.

Unless we're talking of pro-girls here (hard as it sounds, since they have feelings as every one else - but they chose a path) I totally believe that we socalled T-girl lovers have a particular obligation to honesty - to our partners and to our selves.

Transsexual women again and again meet emotional disappointment, so the least we men can do is to at least know our selves before we engage in intimate activities with the ladies.

Peace!

H
__________________
- I cherish the fact that the girls I date are braver than I
Reply With Quote
  #25  
Old 10-17-2008
bucca8's Avatar
bucca8 bucca8 is offline
Apprentice Ladyboy Lover
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Brazil
Posts: 43
bucca8 is on a distinguished road
Send a message via MSN to bucca8
Default

used to happen to me in the past.. today im free... used to happen normlly when you are paying for sex... when "she" is your girlfriend you dont fell that feeling.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
masturbation nickle1 General Discussion 14 03-20-2014 06:40 PM
masturbation causes acne? guest Chat About Shemales 16 02-20-2014 02:37 PM
masturbation or partnership ? katercarlo Chat About Shemales 17 06-03-2009 06:18 PM
New masturbation technique for you... LoverofShemales General Discussion 11 12-16-2008 04:17 AM
Let's share masturbation techniques! ramirezs316 General Discussion 2 03-12-2008 12:05 PM


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 12:50 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Copyright © Trans Ladyboy