Your own family

[welshie85]

How would you feel if you had a brother who wanted to be a shemale?!

[ila]

I don't have any brothers, but if I did I would say "It's your choice. Best wishes and I will support you in whatever way you need or want."

[welshie85]

Wouldnt it be weird though because you like shemales yourself?

[ila]

Originally Posted by welshie85

Wouldnt it be weird though because you like shemales yourself?

I don't think it would be all that weird. I have sisters and I like GGs and I don't feel weird because of that.

[welshie85]

Suppose you are right

[9yneGuy]

I would fully support him in his decision.

[smc]

Originally Posted by welshie85

Wouldnt it be weird though because you like shemales yourself?

Wow, one really has to wonder about your family dynamics to ask a question like this. I mean, really, extend it out to other things we "like" and think about it.

[Gor Gar]

Originally Posted by welshie85

How would you feel if you had a brother who wanted to be a shemale?!

I don't have any siblings, but I have a cousin who was as close to a brother as I could've had growing up, and once he got into his early 20's he sort of came out of the closet and announced that he wished he was born a girl. The majority of the family flipped out about it, especially his folks, and the ones who didn't flip out figured it was a passing phase or a misconstrued notion he might have held onto for a little too long. Me personally, it didn't come as a great big surprise because he'd dropped hints down through the years (like calling instant dibs on playing Teela whenever we broke out the He-Man figures, or telling me about "dreams" he supposedly had where he was Ariel from The Little Mermaid), and he claimed it was because of me buying she-male porn that inspired him to come clean with his feelings. He admitted all of this to me about two years before the rest of the family, and of course I locked something of that magnitude in the vault and didn't tell a soul.

The only times it's ever made me feel uneasy was whenever he felt the need to volunteer details about what he did with other guys, and then there was one time when he tried to show off his attributes to me (tranny or not, either way that's bordering on incestual). Yeah, large amounts of alcohol was involved, but that still didn't excuse it.

But I have to agree with ila...I dig g-girls, and my mother being one doesn't weird me out, so you can apply that logic here.

Very recently I had a friend figure out that he's a lesbian trapped in a guy's body, and that is still something I can't wrap my brain around. I mean, this guy used to tease me for digging the occasional t-girl, and now he's the one that has become a close facsimile thereof. It probably wouldn't be so weird if I'd seen this coming, or if he was even remotely passable...I guess different circumstances and different mindsets could apply on a case-by-case basis. I don't know.

Hope this helps with your question.

[Lord.Steve]

I would just give them a thumbs up, and say if you ever need anything.. Lemme know

[Mel Asher]

Originally Posted by Lord.Steve

I would just give them a thumbs up, and say if you ever need anything.. Lemme know

We-e-e-ll, it might give a whole new meaning to those early in-the-bushes fraternal sex experiments ! !

My immediate response to the news would be " Oh WOW Bro' ". And of course he'd have my full support.

[JodieTs]

I can answer this one for my Brother.

Firstly, I didn't come out as a she-male or any other sexuality terminology
as it trivialises a huge aspect of my life.

Five years ago I went round to his place, for 'that chat'
I spoke to him and his wife.
I came out as a transsexual person who is changing
aspects of my physical and biochemical make up
so as to make this congruent with how I identify inside.
I explained that I am the same person, just some parts of me have been hidden....
but that for me to move forward with my life, I have to be true and transition.
And that this is the most important thing in my life
This is what my life truly is.
I said he will always be my Brother and this
should not have any relevance nor impact
on his memory's of us growing up.

His wife waited for the punch line and he looked both confused and very worried for me.
This was all five years ago.
And it is one hell of a thing to drop on one's family.
So Ts people really need to give a huge amount of slack and time to the ones they love
and hope they can come to terms with it all.

I've since had tons of conversations with my Brother and my Mum on this aspect of our relationship.
Basically, my Brother and I were always very close
That is still true.
Intellectually, he understands everything
But he will never be able to see me as anything other than his brother
which of course I fully understand.
But he is grieving for his lost sibling who he feels he has lost
{and yes I feel so guilty about that}
Just writing this is making me cry.

[smc]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

I can answer this one for my Brother.

Firstly, I didn't come out as a she-male or any other sexuality terminology
as it trivialises a huge aspect of my life.

Five years ago I went round to his place, for 'that chat'
I spoke to him and his wife.
I came out as a transsexual person who is changing
aspects of my physical and biochemical make up
so as to make this congruent with how I identify inside.
I explained that I am the same person, just some parts of me have been hidden....
but that for me to move forward with my life, I have to be true and transition.
And that this is the most important thing in my life
This is what my life truly is.
I said he will always be my Brother and this
should not have any relevance nor impact
on his memory's of us growing up.

His wife waited for the punch line and he looked both confused and very worried for me.
This was all five years ago.
And it is one hell of a thing to drop on one's family.
So Ts people really need to give a huge amount of slack and time to the ones they love
and hope they can come to terms with it all.

I've since had tons of conversations with my Brother and my Mum on this aspect of our relationship.
Basically, my Brother and I were always very close
That is still true.
Intellectually, he understands everything
But he will never be able to see me as anything other than his brother
which of course I fully understand.
But he is grieving for his lost sibling who he feels he has lost
{and yes I feel so guilty about that}
Just writing this is making me cry.

Of course, it's so much more complex than what I am about to write, but the bottom line is that you mustn't feel guilty about how your brother feels, because at the end of the day he must "solve" the feeling of loss he has without even a hint of making you feel as if you owe "going back" to assuage his feelings.

I know you know that, Jodie. The crying part is natural.

[Lord.Steve]

Originally Posted by Mel Asher

We-e-e-ll, it might give a whole new meaning to those early in-the-bushes fraternal sex experiments ! !

My immediate response to the news would be " Oh WOW Bro' ". And of course he'd have my full support.

Err maybe I worded that wrong..I'd just pat my bro on his back and smile..I'd tell him that no matter what he does in his life, he's still my brother, and I love him

[davecess]

I would not be happy. I know going down as that road can involve a lot of anguish for the person involved so I'd be very concerned for his/her welfare. That said I would offer my support 100%

[CuriousMattUK]

Originally Posted by welshie85

How would you feel if you had a brother who wanted to be a shemale?!

I don't have a brother personally but I'd have the utmost respect for him as he'd been brave enough to share such information with me. I would also like to think I would support him.

[katieayanami]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

I can answer this one for my Brother.

Firstly, I didn't come out as a she-male or any other sexuality terminology
as it trivialises a huge aspect of my life.

Five years ago I went round to his place, for 'that chat'
I spoke to him and his wife.
I came out as a transsexual person who is changing
aspects of my physical and biochemical make up
so as to make this congruent with how I identify inside.
I explained that I am the same person, just some parts of me have been hidden....
but that for me to move forward with my life, I have to be true and transition.
And that this is the most important thing in my life
This is what my life truly is.
I said he will always be my Brother and this
should not have any relevance nor impact
on his memory's of us growing up.

His wife waited for the punch line and he looked both confused and very worried for me.
This was all five years ago.
And it is one hell of a thing to drop on one's family.
So Ts people really need to give a huge amount of slack and time to the ones they love
and hope they can come to terms with it all.

I've since had tons of conversations with my Brother and my Mum on this aspect of our relationship.
Basically, my Brother and I were always very close
That is still true.
Intellectually, he understands everything
But he will never be able to see me as anything other than his brother
which of course I fully understand.
But he is grieving for his lost sibling who he feels he has lost
{and yes I feel so guilty about that}
Just writing this is making me cry.

Wow!

i would be very supportive of my brother if i had one. it means i would have a new sister.

i would help her become the cutest girl in the world.

Originally Posted by katieayanami

Wow!

i would be very supportive of my brother if i had one. it means i would have a new sister.

That is pretty much what I had been thinking--that I would love and support my new sister.