"I'm Attracted To Trans Women"...

[Chatsworth]

We need more writers like this...

http://www.salon.com/2013/10/22/im_a...o_trans_women/

Short,but he makes some good points.

[GRH]

A very encouraging read up until you get to the reader comments section!

[Chatsworth]

Originally Posted by GRH

A very encouraging read up until you get to the reader comments section!

You're going to find that hateful element everywhere. Don't dwell on or study the hate. Look at it instead as an opportunity to enlighten.Counter the negativity there and elsewhere,in other words.

[FairyInBoots]

Originally Posted by GRH

A very encouraging read up until you get to the reader comments section!

Never read the comments, it's like that nearly everywhere.

I'm in something of a different boat, but it's arguably on the same water: I'm attracted to cis men and trans women. In some spaces, this is easily bi or queer, but in some other spaces, even other trans spaces, there is always a handful of people who make this out to be more complicated, sometimes even accusing me of not really accepting trans women as women. Sometimes being a trans man, there are a handful of trans women who feel inclined to cut me some slack on that, but it does bother me that there are always people who seem inclined to go out of their ways to complicate things that are actually pretty straightforward.

[GRH]

FairyInBoots, the problem is that anytime you add "transgendered" to the sexuality mix, it inevitably complicates things beyond the standard "in the box" system that we use to classify sexuality.

If a "straight" man likes women, he is straight. If he likes transwomen...Is he still straight? If he is attracted to a cock (male genitalia) but to feminine features, still straight? Gay? Bi? When you add in the fact that you are a transman, and you consider that you are attracted to transwomen...Who can say what you are? The biological woman in you that is attracted to a biological man would make you straight. The biological woman in you that is attracted to a gender-identifying female would make you gay. The male-identifying part of your gender that is attracted to a woman (whether trans or cis) would make you straight. But the male-indentifying part of your gender that is attracted to male genitalia (whether on transwomen or cis-men) would make you gay.

Where do you draw the line? I don't think it really matters to be honest, beyond being comfortable with yourself. The transgendered orientation (whether you ARE trans, or are attracted to trans) just throws a monkey wrench in the conventional way of labeling sexuality. To be honest, around here I tend to call men gay who like trans, if only because I know that they are struggling with their sexuality, and I think they need to get comfortable with the fact that they will be perceived as "gay" for liking trans, regardless of how they reconcile their own sexuality in their own minds.

[GRH]

I'll add some more commentary...

I have no clue what I am-- lesbian, straight, bisexual, trisexual, etc. Historically, I've been attracted to women, but I've had sex with a man before. Under the right circumstances, I might could like a man-- but there are so many quirks about men that I just don't find attractive. But I am definitely trans-attracted. As a trans myself, I guess that means I'm gay? Heck, bisexual covers a pretty broad range of behavior/attraction, so maybe I'll settle on that.

I've generally been pretty timid around here, and have never really commented on the porn portions of the site too much. I've been coming out a bit more though and complimenting the models who I find to be beautiful. But for me, trans-attraction is complex. It's sort of similar to what happens if I see a beautiful cis-woman. A part of me might get sexually aroused, and I might think, "What I'd love to do with you!" But an even bigger part of me screams, "OMG! You are SO BEAUTIFUL! I wish I looked like you!" or, "I wish I could wear that dress/heels/lingerie/etc."

[canuck_01]

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