Dating a ts escort

[aussiepride]

anyone tried to casually see/ become more with a girl that was an escort?

i recently meet up with a stunning ts that had only come into the country a few days prior.
we have been speaking for a while on fb and when she arrived on phone, and arranged a date.
we sat and talked for a few hours sitting at darling hrbr and she was a real smart funny girl. anwyay after a few hrs things got a bit hot and heavy... and we went back to mine and spent the next 5 hrs in my bed fooling around, then sleeping, then playing more then sleeping.
she said she liked meeting people, but wasnt into dating as it complicated things.. feelings she meant.

we had a great time, and i really fell for her.

anway the next day i started working things out and decided to google her number.. and up come her escort profile.
now, was i just lucky... and got a freebie? or was she just bored n horny?

ahah she has really got under my skin, and i am planning to see her again in a few days, but is this normal for girls?

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

anyone tried to casually see/ become more with a girl that was an escort?

i recently meet up with a stunning ts that had only come into the country a few days prior.
we have been speaking for a while on fb and when she arrived on phone, and arranged a date.
we sat and talked for a few hours sitting at darling hrbr and she was a real smart funny girl. anwyay after a few hrs things got a bit hot and heavy... and we went back to mine and spent the next 5 hrs in my bed fooling around, then sleeping, then playing more then sleeping.
she said she liked meeting people, but wasnt into dating as it complicated things.. feelings she meant.

we had a great time, and i really fell for her.

anway the next day i started working things out and decided to google her number.. and up come her escort profile.
now, was i just lucky... and got a freebie? or was she just bored n horny?

ahah she has really got under my skin, and i am planning to see her again in a few days, but is this normal for girls?

Jeez, one can't help but wonder what your "missus" thinks about all this:

Originally Posted by aussiepride

although the missus tried her hardest to convert me to the cubs...

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by smc

Jeez, one can't help but wonder what your "missus" thinks about all this:

well at the expense of being called whatever i deserve
my missus has chosen to be heavily medicated with hormones, which makes her a bit of a eunuch, and as such zero interest in sex. not an ideal relationship, but love is love, but sex is sex.
a loving relationship sometimes allows for these anomolies

[aussiepride]

ok so now i am really confused by this girl.
she is actively working as an escort, she rents a hotel room for $900p/w, so she must be making a fair bit.
anyway i met up with her again few days ago and had amazing sex, and we slept like babbies until the morning. ahah the things we did to each other.. ahah i w0ould hate if i had to put a price on it.

[aussiepride]

haha this girl is such a blast. shes is pretty happy with our casual arrangement (and so am i) although if things were different i am sure it would be more.

anyway we were talking the other day and we talked about 3somes and she said shes never had one and wanted me to set one up for her lol.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

anyone tried to casually see/ become more with a girl that was an escort?

Not exactly.
I am a transsexual escort.
I'm also very active on a uk based sex workers support and advice forum.
Most of the escorts there are bio-women but the question you raise comes up occasionally,
abet from the other side of the equation (ie from the Providers point of view)

Usually these men already have a partner (I see this applies to you)
And as such these men are looking for a freebie,
under the guise of something else {often an inferred potential relationship}.

I call that obtaining goods/services by deception.

Well you did ask, matey.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

my missus has chosen to be heavily medicated with hormones, which makes her a bit of a eunuch,
and as such zero interest in sex. not an ideal relationship....

What did you really expect, dating a transsexual woman.
A huge drop in sex drive is usually part of the deal,
and as a direct result of HRT.

When she has SRS {sex reassignment surgery}
are you going to be one of those partners who suddenly decides he doesn't want a female who has a vagina?

[JodieTs]

Are you in Oz?
The flip side could be her looking long term for a kind nice man
to do the marriage thing (sham or real) to give her right of residence.
Especially useful in Oz if you are from a third world country & Whoring.
Same in the UK too where this also happens.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

this girl...

What does your current partner say about you seeing this woman?
{Having a liaison with a Provider is a whole different ballgame to what your discussing.}
And a much bigger potential impact on your existing relationship.
This girl does freebees with you.
Does she know you have a partner?

Are those private pics that she let you take of her?
Or are they from her ad?
If private, does she know you posted these pictures, up on a tranny porn forum?
(We need to know)

[aussiepride]

Hey Jodie
Thanks for the posts.
I will try to answer it all in one post, so here goes.

I am interested by what you say in your first post about sex workers who talk about dating, maybe a thing for another thread, but I still would like to know how they feel.
I am not looking for a freebie. I have a complicated relationship with my gf. No I did not know what it would be like dating a ts woman, she was the first ts woman I dated. We often talk that the mistakes I have made as we dated, and many of them are due to the fact that I never experienced life (a regular gf/bf life ? not a few casual encounters that I had had before I met her) with a ts before I met her.
I fell in love with her from the first time I met her, and although my heart skips a beat when I think about her, she has never had a high sex drive., much lower than every other ts I have ever met. But you see sex wasn?t the thing that I saw in her. I wanted to be with her. Surely you have been with people that yeah you love having sex with them, but as soon as its over, you want them to leave/ cant stand them. She was someone who I wanted to spend all day every day with (and at the start we did).

As for a freebie, well it works both ways. She has travelled the world and is a very confident independent intelligent woman. Im sure if she didn?t appreciate a friend or casual sex with someone that perhaps would fit the mould of a ?regular? client she wouldn?t reply to phone calls, sms or emails.

My current gf is not looking to have srs. She is very happy with herself and body as it is, and in contrast to the standing rules of this forum, she is a ts who does not think she is a woman. She thinks she looks prettier than most woman, but she was born a male, has a birth certificate that says she born a boy, still has a penis, and although she thinks LIKE a girl, she isn?t one. (HER WORDS NOT MINE)
But if she did, I wouldn?t mind, I mean I see myself as a str8 male. I am a top, so yeah I like to suck her doodle, but I also love sucking pussy, so to me its her personal choice. The only thing I told her was that if she reverted back to male then I don?t know how I would feel about her (I saw pics of her as a boy, and it didn?t do much for me).
Yes I am in australia.
I know exactly what you are referring to regarding residence issues, I have seen it in other girls, but in this girls case it is different.
She has a boyfriend, ex boyfriend, long time friend that she has know for many years and is an aussie that is a boss in a company, they have been off/on bf/gf for years. She is attracted to him and he would provide her financially with everything she would want. Last week he offered to marry her. A proper marriage with all her fam invited, etc etc. she confided in me that if she did that she would have to stop all her casual encounters. She has a high sex drive and said she would for instance have to give up seeing me. Something at 26 that she doenst know she wants to give up that ?freedom?.
As for my current seeing this girl n vice versa. My gf knows that I have casual encounters with others. She used to get stressed by me pressuring her for sex, and wants me to be happy. I would never leave her for someone else.
The girl I am casually seeing. Well she dates some guys at same time we meet. She knows I have someone, but enjoys our time together.
The pics were taken by me, but were published on her site.

[JodieTs]

Hi Ausie
Thanks for the look-in on your life.

Sex workers of all flavours get hit on for freebies presented in various guises.
That was the reasoning behind my slightly barbed comment. We are hugely suspicious.
Of course most sex workers are in relationships and either were before working as escorts, or they find a partner while working. Though not usually usually through work. For the single sex worker looking for fun, be it a one night stand through to a lifelong relationship they want someone special, who connects. And where the sex is good too. Otherwise we just think to ourselves: 'This is a pretty indifferent shag and I don't feel any special connection either. I'd rather be on the clock'

A partner or potential partner of an escort {one who is legit and not just angling for a free shag} gets to bring their own mental stuff to the party. Dating an escort is a huge amount emotionally to deal with. Sex is something special, on a pedestal not to be shared around. Least that's what society drums into us. No matter how liberal and sorted the guy is, at times that will bite him and fuck with his head.
My man lives abroad. When he is over he's not exactly thrilled to know I'm off out on a job to shag someone. Not so much the sex but the risk. Will I come back or be found decomposing in a ditch after ten days.
One of the things he does involves going up ladders with minimal safety kit. Oh the ladder may be ten foot high, but along side a 150 metre drop onto rocks. I hate him doing that. But he points out it's his job, by choice and no different to me doing an outcall.

I'm the first ts he's dated and the first Ts too. So serious head fuck territory for him. Aussie, I'm sure you have the same with your two ongoing relationships. Last year I had two partners, my man and a woman, who is still a close friend. {I met up last night to see her new motorcycle}
Complicated relationship sometimes describes relationships with Ts's, even more so if they escort. Aussie I'm glad you're not looking for a freebie from this other woman. With your primary partner, as long as she knows and is cool with it, then it rocks. I want to be with Mr Jodie all the time too.
Escorting gives me the financial and time freedom to do be with him more.

'As for a freebie, well it works both ways' ~ True. I was curious as to your motivation. You sound ok here and pretty balanced about things generally.
I'm guessing you've had a lot of head-fucks along the way to get there.

You know where you mentioned seeing pics of your partner as a boy?
A while ago I was French kissing Mr Jodie really passionately and out of the blue. I slowly raised up a picture from behind my back, of a handsome man with designer stubble. Yep, me from pre transition! I am a very bad person!

You sound pretty sorted in your life. And it seems to work for all three of you.
It did for us when we were in a three way thing which had some similarities to yours.

[aussiepride]

ahah omg jodie. lol what happened after you showed him the boy pic of you?
yeah my girl showed me a high school year book, and to be honest you could put the pic next to her face and i would still not see the similarity lol.
as i said before, as for attraction for it, she just looked like a regular skinny asian boy. sorta not my thing.

[JodieTs]

He's quicker than me.
He immediately didn't bat an eye lid, carried on kissing me while saying:
"Wow, he's hot, I'd shag him!"

Despite this being an old pic of me,
I stood on my man's foot and walked off in a huff, leaving him grinning
at the point score!

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

He's quicker than me.
He immediately didn't bat an eye lid, carried on kissing me while saying:
"Wow, he's hot, I'd shag him!"

Despite this being an old pic of me,
I stood on my man's foot and walked off in a huff, leaving him grinning
at the point score!

as my gf lived over 30 years as a boy old habits die hard.
for instance her family still call her her boy name.
in crowded situations i can call her girl name all i want, vut i know if i want her instant attention i call her by her boy name. bo biggie for me really.

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

haha this girl is such a blast. shes is pretty happy with our casual arrangement (and so am i) although if things were different i am sure it would be more.

anyway we were talking the other day and we talked about 3somes and she said shes never had one and wanted me to set one up for her lol.

no takers?
shes a little picky. she already rejected one mate i suggested.

[aussiepride]

Just an update.
Recently this girl met a guy in Aus and they hit it off.
Seems she was actually looking for a relationship, and no it wasn't a visa thing, as she has now moved back to asia for a while.
As I was In a relationship already I wasnt able to have the sort of relationship she wanted.
I think she is still working as a pro though, something that I just wouldnt handle if I was really into someone (would certainly stop me from taking it to the next level)