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"Real Girls"
I'm really not fond of non-trans women being called "real" girls, or for that matter trans women being referred to in the feminine with quotes around the pronouns - Like:
I really had a good time with a hot "girl" from the local tranny bar. "She" was pretty and looked like a real girl until "she" got naked. Aside from the obvious trivializing of my identity and the stuff I had to go through and endure; it's dangerous. Seriously dangerous - Angie Zapata's murderer told the cops "I had to hit it" - Angie wasn't a woman..she wasn't even a person. To a lesser degree, I have been with at least 5 guys who at some post let me know that they were done with me because they liked "real girls". One of them minutes after he talked me (begged is probably a better term) into giving it up for him. I was in bed when he got that stupid awkward look on his face and said "wow you were really hot - but I like the real thing". I could point out the purely physical stuff and say that they are "feminine" or "womanly" - but really, I was as much a woman before I ever laid eyes on hormones or a skirt or some eyeliner so that whole "femininity" thing doesn't really prove anything - I'd be a chick if I stopped shaving my legs and wore a suit - it's who I am not what I'm wearing. I think the part that stinks for me (and probably most Trans* folks) is me transitioning was me being 100% authentic - ultimately honest with myself and the world. When that honesty is called dishonest it hurts.
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Jeez, Bionca, real + $5.00 = $5.00
When it comes to sex, all men are pigs, every "real" woman knows that. If you go to the trans bar I guarantee you can get fucked every night. You need to find a guy you really like. If it's real it's real. Even Librarians have sex. You have a really good head on your shoulders but you're like a broken record with this Mr. Wrong mantra. Maybe you think you deserve more than the regular person sexually because of all the crap you've been through. Make peace with your parents and find the guy thats looking for a girl like you -Jim Landers |
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Happend to me awhile ago, A guy i met beat the crap outta me when he found out i wasn't a "real girl" When i tried to report it i got a rude awaking from the "real cop" when he found out i was transgendered he said it was my fault for teasing the poor guy and he had every right to smack me around and he hoped i learned my lesson and refused to file a report, Jennifer
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Yeah, Canada's such a utopia! Last time I was in Windsor, Canada, it made Detroit look like a tolerant place. Seriously, cops are all assholes. The only cop I've ever met who's actually a nice guy is my probation officer, but he's a retired cop ... I think he's just trying to make up for having been an asshole in the 90's. A cop refusing the file a police report for you? That's nothing. Last time I got arrested he did file a report, and it was totally full of lies. |
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As for Windsor, I would say that's because they have thier own police force. In Canada, there are city cops, which only have jurisdiction in their own city limits, and there are the RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police) Which have jurisdiction anywhere that's Canadian soil. In my experiance, city police tend to have more assholes on their payroll, and the RCMP tend to be more tolerant. Either way though, I've never had any real difficulties with the police. Canada really is quite tolerant. We're one of the few countries that allow same-sex marriage, and the Canadian Forces medical plan will pay for SRS for soldiers that wish to transition. Seriously, you can't get much more tolerant than that! |
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so bad
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I wish there was something positive that i could say,but folks is folks,they are not going to change. Next time rip the bastards nuts off and dispose of the body,you would be better off. Take care,ony |
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Wow, Bionca - thanks for speaking out. Your words really had an impact on me. I believe I truly understand what you mean and how you feel. You make so much sense - I really hope you have challenged all of us on here.
Thank you. |
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TransJen, how insecure was that creep??!! How utterly pathetic he should think he was better than you by beating the crap out of you.
Makes me feel sick to the stomach! A pathetic, losing creep who is too weak to face up to his feelings. As for the police, my God... We have along way to go in this world.. |
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Th sad thing is, this is a fairly recent development within the last couple of thousand years in most of the west, prior to that we often had a recognised and respected place in many cultures. In some further east that christianity had less of an effect on, we still do.
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Hi Amy ..
That's very true .. in fact I was thinking only last night about the special place held by Transgendered people in Native American culture (remember the film "A Man called Horse") ?? Certainly within the Sioux Nation & I believe to an extent within the Cheyenne people .. the Transgendered were accorded special status .. The subsequent "Western" persecution of the Transgendereed & Gay communities can be laid firmly at the door of the Church ... though in reality they have little to gripe about .. One of their most revered Saints (Joan of Arc) was probably Transgendered .. or if not, then certainly was "XYY" chromosome afflicted ... Surely, in 2009 the world is a big enough place for us all to co-exist .. if not exactly in "peace" then at least in tolerance ????? Bye for now, Orion .. |
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I would have filed a report anyways, against the cop. Then raised holy hell with the press and anyone else I could to embarrass the cop and the police force. There is absolutely NO justification for anyone to beat the crap out of anyone. PERIOD!!
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It isn't so much that guys dump me for chicks that cane give them babies, it's that these guys feel they are justified to deny my identity and/or feel like my honesty is actually deception (always after I've given up the goods).
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Time For A New Bionca Avatar Photo
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Jen is a peach, but she has unintentionally left out from her first telling that she was making-out w/ the guy, and accepted going to his place. Drinking may have been involved. When they continued in private, he finally went into her panties, and things changed when he found a sausage and not a donut. I agree that she should have been able to file a complaint, BTW. Care to add a sentence or two w/ this wrinkle involved? Piece, TAL |
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I know you aren't tryng to say that violence is justified, but so often people - even other trans*folks will assume that a gal wasn't being honest about her status, denounce the violence, then say she kinda had it comming anyway. I wonder what the public's reaction would be if women started beating the snot out of men who lied about their cock size...
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Sorry about your being beaten up, been there. Only I was beaten up by five guys who did not like the attention I got from their girlfriends. I was new to the area,had long hair and enjoyed being 'cool'. No I wasn't gay nor was I a fem-boy. Just different. That that out of the way, and forgive my ignorance, But what 'title(s)' do shemales give to 1)natural born women, 2)the 'straight' community/world, & 3)....sorry, lost my train of thought. I do that at times because I think faster than I type. Anyway, people are either assholes or not. Don't ever let the world beat you down. The strength shemales display shows through everyday by merely keeping on. The conviction shown through the operations, doing the everyday chores in public, helping others with their problems while still living with your own, shows lessons the rest of the world should learn. Those,my dear lady, are only a few of the reasons why I am a new admirer to your 'world'. NB |
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1) if a distinction needs to be made cis (non-trans) is good, "GG" for Genetic Girl works, I personally like "Natal Women". 2) "the strait world" works. Alsom lots of trans women go "stealth" and just live in the "strait world" as women, so "home" would also work. I don't like seeming like I'm constantly down on you guys. When you take the time time to try to "get it", you become special and wonderful. So many of the guys who post here have/are at least trying to "get it" and I don't think I express anough how much I appreciate that. I wouldn't still be posting here if it wasn't the case.
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The police are there to take action against criminal acts and in Jen's case the cop should have taken action. If the cop took no action then he should have been charged under the applicable law for not doing his duty. All persons are equal under the law so it should not matter who the parties are that are involved. Police are not judges so they have no right to decide who will be afforded protection under the law. |
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Ila & Lust
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I made no comment on it at all. I left that open for Bianca to comment. I don't believe anyone has the right to beat up anyone else for most reasons. To clarify, there are exceptions, like if your life is threatened and you have no other choice. Please, both of you, ask B4 jumping to conclusions. Piece, TAL |
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Next day my Dad asked how the "big" date went. (He watched me get ready) I told him the truth about the TGirl. He asked, "so what did you do when you found out?" I told him I shot my load in her ass. He laughed long and hard out loud and asked two questions: "how was it", and "did you wear a condom?" He was a good dad. |
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a little help
that cop and jerk need a little lesson in manners
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Jennifer I'm sorry for what happened to you. Any man that hits a women is not a man. Besides you are so beautiful inside and out. I agree this world has a long way to go.
XOXOX respect |
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Hurtful? This is High School 101.
EVERY GIRL IS GOING TO BE JUDGED In High School, there was one #1 girl. Prom Queen, Homecoming Princess. Great breeding, genes. The perfect wife and mother. She would go on to marry the quarterback or Mayor's son and never let him down. And then there's #6, #25, #268. This is how guys think from prehistoric times. Being a woman is no picnic. As far as cops go, they peel people off windshields in horrible traffic accidents, that's why they don't like speeders and drunks. They also go to very painful domestic violence incidents with children screwed for life because of idiot parents. All cops are big on FAMILY. No disrespect for Bionca. I probably misunderstood her post anyway. |
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Also, I only look for guys looking for gals like me. I have no desire to have that type of conversation with someone - one of the reasons I still only go dancing at gay clubs, won't date guys from work, give guys who ask a fake phone number ... I have no reason to trust that some random dude who hits on me isn't going to freak out (even if he says he doesn't care).
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I'm not a woman in a man's body, but a couple years ago I did find out I have a malfunctioning pitutitary gland, which kind of puts me in the soup.
As kids, we had a pact not to let our parents know anything that would lead to doctors or drama. I still don't understand why guys looking for girls like you would be dismissive or whatever with you, even after they've shot their load. What's not to like? I really do appreciate your patience and understanding, I'm sure you have all the problems that life comes with as well as a few more. Some of my favorite weekends have gotten me beaten up, confused, broke, and very very tired. Hope this Kwissmuss finds everyone a little closer to God, wherever that is...... |
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I've often noticed that guys here- and on other internet forums as well- don't seem to care about how they treat t-girls. They're no more than objects of desire to them, why bother treating them as humans with feelings? That really annoys me.
As for Transjen: do you live in the US? If so, geez... there's a lot of work left to get your country out of the sexual Dark Ages. And judging by some people's responses I doubt if it'll ever happen.
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Guys on this site
There is one thing i have noticed while being on this site,most of the guys who post here are just here for the fact that thy like to get off over shemales,for want of a better word,there seems to be no respect,just complete lust.
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Yes i do, But i do want to point this out it doesn't matter where you live this stuff happens to T-girls all over the world not just in the US, Please note i'm not putting down any country or state i'm just stating a fact, Yes in some place we are treated and accepted a lot better then in other places but no matter where you go you find a certen kinda of mentality that wants us locked away out of site out of mind because we don't fit in there way the world is supposed to be according to them, Neil Young said it very well" i don't feel like satan but i am to them" Jennifer
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I really appreciate your comments and the comments by Fran and other Tgirls. I must admit I joined this forum to look at shemale images and feel horney. I imagined that transexuals were somehow more sexually endowed than genetic women. I had no idea that transitioning was so difficult and even dangerous, in addition to the loss of family support. I am sure you have heard the old story that when God created man he didn't provide enough blood to run the brain and penis at the same time. I hope you will soon find the love you deserve. Take care.
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So, sure T-gals get disrespected front and back from a little slice of everyone. The battles over using public restrooms for example ... oh man. It's not just a guy thing and it's not just a sex thing. Liking trans* bodies and arousal is probably a good thing. Understanding that we are more and less than guys with tits is critical.
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Personally, I have nothing but admiration for the courage and perseverance that you and many other transsexual women are showing. In fact, even though you're not into women, I would love to have you as my friend. |
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hmmmmmm, maybe girls you can knock up and gurls you shouldn't knock down. No?
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Making a distinction where personal safety could be compromised is simple self preservation. I happened to give some suggestions about terms to use, you could always go back a read them. Perhaps you have some you think would be more appropriate?
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I'm pretty sure this won't be a popular post, but I had to chime in. I think the reason some guys don't consider transgendered women "real" women is because they simply aren't. You may be a woman internally, but the term "real" is used to describe the gender we were brought to this earth with. It's like a person associating with a different race; no matter how much they feel they are that race inside, they'll never be.
On top of that, why would you want to be considered a "real" woman anyway? I think there's something special about being transgendered. Meh, my two cents. |
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For All of Us!
Be patient, I say that "real girls" are as they are in her minds, the body does not define anything (focus on your face, for me this say more than if you have a pussy or penis), I hope to find a woman like you and I know that are many who want to share a life, anybody an find the real love. Will be patient for the rest of the world, one day everybody will respects all of you as a "real girls"
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thats just sick beating someone even if i wasnt attracted to tgs i know for a fact that if i ended up about to have sex with one then found out i know i would never beat them i just think that people that do that are really insecure and need to open their mind
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Bionca, I think the term here is "GOTCHA! " You want a guy(xy) that will treat you as xx but who is not looking for a xx. |
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I am so confused----
Good Golly Miss Molly---after reading this thread I don't know if my opinion would get me a pat on the noggin or a kick in the pants. All I know is the moment a person starts living as a woman full time then I would call her a girl/lady/she/female etc. I have fortuneately met a number of TS's for a better word and have thought of them as ladies every single moment that I have been with them. I also admire them highly for the courage that they have as a whole to have the guts to change thier entire lives and go through all the turmoil of daily living. From what I have seen all TS ladies take more pride in thier appearance than most GG's because they emotionally and physically had to sacrifice --- not just been given it.
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Nope- I'm looking for a guy who can respect me as a human, not an exotic sexual treat. Also, had Tracy actually read the post she quoted, she would have seen a few suggestions for what terms to use when required.
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I don't believe anybody deserves to be beaten, just because they are sexualy different, I think they do it because you bring out feelings that makes them think their gay, and it angers them, instead of going with their feelings, they become violent. Cowards, maybe not, just not in touch with their feelings, like some of us. This happened to me and I went with it, glad I did.
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One of my main causes is stopping the violence toward the LGBT community. Maybe because I have friends who have suffered. Maybe because I find the idea of someone beating up a person they presumably went home with because they were attracted to--only to turn violent--especially heinous. Maybe because I am capable of doing something about it. The next time someone "feels" like that, I hope that they will come to see me instead. We'll talk about it... Last edited by aw9725; 08-31-2010 at 02:07 PM. |
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This is totally awesome
I'm pretty much stealth all the time,
in that I don't shout my trans status anywhere People see me and see whatever they want to see. believe whatever they want to believe. I do date, and quite early on, involves "That conversation" It used to really bother me, but now it doesn't. This following blog post helped me get my head round things. I now smile, wink, & say I'm a packin'...then tell them 'that stuff' I just need to stop thinking about writing a written apology for the anatomical layout of my body,to anyone who finds me attractive. Yep. I really mentally do think that The following is the most awesome trans-related thing I have ever read. http://therealkellyshore.info/2009/11/05/my-wish/ Stop Oppression. We can do it if we just be ourselves with out word slinging and violence. Why is it we transpeople feel we need to talk back to a group of guys that clocked us in public. Why do we need to escalate it so its another transsexuals? death in vain. A beautiful individual working her/his way down the path of peace within her/his self. The peace they will never be allowed over an escalated argument or dating a man or woman under false pretences. I?ll go more into this topic later. It?s a minute out of our day that we were name called, but we have 23:59 to keep on our path and the rest of our lives. I say lets bury our pride and worry about ourselves and safety first. Too many transsexual deaths? come from escalating the issue of hate. We think standing up and yelling back at the person/persons emotionally abusing us, is going to make them change their mind or change what was said that made us so mad. I can tell you it wont. I have always believed you can always catch more bees with honey. When we decide to take part in the word slinging it escalates the hate more. It gives them the catalyst to make it easier to physically harm us. Who knows if that day it will be a beating or death. Why play with fire people? I don?t get why we give these people filled with hate so much power over our lives? We should worry more about what we think of ourselves and what our loved ones think, before instigating a mob of haters. So they called us a fag, a man, a freak, a pervert, or whatever lame attempt they can throw at us let them have it. In the end we know who we are and what path we are on. Let the them have their view, if thats what it takes to keep us safe for another day. We still have our view, they haven?t taken it from us. The media may strip us as they like, but we know who we are and thats what is important. Hold dear to things in you life you value and love. Remember that tomorrow we most likely wont even remember the incident the day before. This keeps us safe and gives us the time we need to achieve our genders we need to be viewed as, live as, and love as. Escalating hate with flinging words can result in having our life ripped away from us. Remember time is precious, life is precious, and lying on a morgue table is not a wish I have for myself. My wish is to get these men and women that have beat us and murdered us not have the option of a slap on the wrist with a thing called a sanity plea. That judicial systems finally start seeing these crimes as hate crimes, and giving them the full punishment of the law. We need to stop giving these people the angle they need to be set free for our deaths. Lastly with ladies and gentleman that go around tricking men and women on dates. I beg you to think of your actions before you keep practising this habit. I realize you need to be treated as your gender, and maybe you think in your head you can?t be treated solely as that gender if they know. I assure you this isn?t true! Lets remember our dead. Lets remember the beautiful teen Gwen Araujo who played with fire and in the end was burnt. No she did not deserve this, she was a teen girl wanting to do what every teen girl does her age. It would be great if we had the luxury of living as any other teen girl, but we as transwomen have limitations we need to understand this and embrace this. To protect ourselves. To stop our murders. Lets stop giving these people filled with so much hate an excuse to dismiss who we are so easily by killing us. I am sure I?ll get many debaters on this, saying this is cowardly, but dear it?s smart. Why throw away your life so easily? Why do you feel the need to give these people who you only knew for that instant so much power on who we are? This issue goes on a lot with transmen also tricking women, violence is less in these instances, but please remember Brandon. Another young transperson wanting to be viewed as what he was. A man. He wanted to fall in love like everyone does, but loving under false pretenses under any admission will never work out. There are those rare and lucky cases where tricking did turn out good for the transmen and women, but don?t base these rare chances on fact or your fate. Lets talk about what we should do. Lets ignore the people that don?t understand us on the streets, and put our anger towards getting our voices heard politically, by openminded supporters, and by each other. Lets stop hating on one another and focus this energy on getting transwomen and men jobs, opportunities, and equal rights. Lets try to figure out a plan to make sex work less of a stigma of what transsexuals are and do. Let transwomen and men that have the means open businesses and hire other transpeople. Many are doing this now, lets stick to doing this. Lets work on helping our weak and making them strong, instead of focusing on the people who would rather see us dead. Lets donate money to activist groups who are fighting for our rights in Washington, in our counties, and in our cities. My wish is to become a more unified, caring, and helping community. Rather than a community that reads one another, because one girl is less transitioned than the next. My wish is the lover of transwomen and men stand with us to battle discrimination and oppression. That they will be proud to say I love transsexuals for whatever their reasoning. My wish is to see less transsexuals having money for sex and more mainstream jobs. Even if it?s just stripping. My wish is to bring our sisterhood and brotherhood together instead of transmen being on one side and transwomen on the other. Lets stop oppression now. Lets use our voices to uplift, instead of defending all the time. Most of all lets stop our murders, thats my wish. I would love to see trans-couples come forward to talk about their successes. Their love. Their normalcy. To help educate. I know there are many couples out there but so little come out and talk, all you hear is about escorts. We need to make a stand with empowerment and education, not with idle words and comebacks. It leaves us nowhere! XoXo Kelly |
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