New T-Girl in Transition

[Dani]

Hi, my birth name is Daniel but my Female name is Dani (short for Danielle). I am currently going through the process of the M2F transition and I joined this forum to discuss with like-minded people the process and how. They did things with family and men, etc. I am just wondering also for the Males on the forum how many are looking for long term with a T-Girl?

Thank you for any replies I look forward to reading them!

Dani

PS I am 20 years old in FL!

[spike_40]

Originally Posted by Dani

Hi, my birth name is Daniel but my Female name is Dani (short for Danielle). I am currently going through the process of the M2F transition and I joined this forum to discuss with like-minded people the process and how. They did things with family and men, etc. I am just wondering also for the Males on the forum how many are looking for long term with a T-Girl?

Thank you for any replies I look forward to reading them!

Dani

PS I am 20 years old in FL!

Hi Dani
Well I will put my hand up as a Male seeking a long term relationship but in your case I would say the age differance is to great.
Good luck and go forward, remain positive hope you find a mate to assist and be with you

[Konnor]

Hi Dani, and welcome.

Again, the age difference is too great.

I hope all goes well for you.

[chelsea]

pics?.....

[Dani]

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

[rambozo]

Hi Dani,
I wish you the best!

[ila]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

Hi Dani,

I am sure that there are a lot of men in the world that are looking for a long term relationship. I am one of those who would like to have a long term relationship. I would especially like a long term relationship with a transwoman. She would definitely not have to hide her past or who she is from me. If I was in a relationship with a transwoman I would support her at all times. I would encourage her to be herself and I would not hestitate to introduce her to my family and friends. If she wanted to let anyone know her background then I would support her in that too. There are other men that feel this way also.

Anyone that would require to hide who you are and what you have been is not worth having a relationship with.

I wish you all the best for the future. You definitely have a hard row to hoe and I do hope you have many good friends who support you. I'm sure that you will always find a sympathetic ear at this site.

[rambozo]

Originally Posted by ila

Hi Dani,

I am sure that there are a lot of men in the world that are looking for a long term relationship. I am one of those who would like to have a long term relationship. I would especially like a long term relationship with a transwoman. She would definitely not have to hide her past or who she is from me. If I was in a relationship with a transwoman I would support her at all times. I would encourage her to be herself and I would not hestitate to introduce her to my family and friends. If she wanted to let anyone know her background then I would support her in that too. There are other men that feel this way also.

Anyone that would require to hide who you are and what you have been is not worth having a relationship with.

I wish you all the best for the future. You definitely have a hard row to hoe and I do hope you have many good friends who support you. I'm sure that you will always find a sympathetic ear at this site.

[citoyen]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

here can not be given advice. It is a question of confidence
between two partners. but I believe love should not be built on disappointment. my best wishes and friendly greetings

[Dani]

I hope that disappointment isn't what my future relationships are based upon but I suppose everyone gets disappointed sometime!

[tslust]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

There are some guys that are looking for a long term relationship. But many are simply looking for a cheap thrill.

[Dani]

Jen,
I have picked out a few names that I like and similar to your method of finding a name a friend of mine keeps calling me Olivia which I like but not for the reasons she does!!!

TSlust,
I understand that and interestingly enough since I am still very masculine I have run into a few good guys and some other interested in thrills! They both have their places I suppose!

Thank you guys for the feedback on some of the issues I am facing.

Dani

[Dani]

Thanks void!

I am kinda curious what you folks on here think...talked with my therapist and he kinda suggested with the transition being so expensive and me lacking any form of insurance...that I wait until I am done with school and working full time to begin transitioning and going as a full time woman...

Just curious if you agree or disagree...this could make it easier on my parents since they wouldn't have to feel as though they are going to have to foot the financial burden.

[johndowe]

Hi there.

Well, i think your therapist is not too keen or not too knoledgable about tg issues, the thing is, it is expensive but the sooner you start the better the results, and the less surguries you will need, if you had any other affliction would your parents gladly foot the bill?

I would suggest that you change therapist to one that is knoledgable about tg isues and see what he (or she) sais.

JohnDowe.

[tonywaits]

One thing I might suggest is that you can go to work in a trans friendly bar as a bartender or performer and make some good money. That could help you through school and with some medical expenses. Depending on how big the town is you live in you could perform at a more than one local trans friendly bar and make a decent amount of money. Our performers make as little as $50 plus tips a night to $250 plus tips. It all depends on the crowd you draw.

Hope this helps

[royal_rumble]

Hey there Dani, just picked up on the thread and would like to wish you luck! No doubt it will be a bit of a daunting journey and will take alot of courage but you will get there in the end

[Dani]

Thanks Royal and Tony! I am sure there are plenty of friendly bars in my area since I live in Orlando!

John, I agreed with your suggestion and went ahead and switched therapists to someone who came highly recommended by a fellow trans at the local GLBT center! Hope things go smoother with him.