I want some advice...

[babygirl1]

Hey,
I moved in with my partner a few months ago, I am I staight female, and he's a straight male.
I knew before we moved in together that he had a thing for Ladyboys. I've not got a problem with that, I've told him I'm happy for him to go and meet up with some and live out his fantasy. He's even suggested having a threesome which I wouldn't say know to.
Anyway... over the last few weeks I've been having problems with childminders having recently lost mine and have had to cut back on the hours I've worked..
This is only a temporary situation, so last night we were talking and he suggested getting a live in childminder/house keeper.
He then said we should get one from Thailand and it led to him saying that he wants to get a Ladyboy to move in with us and then he could basically have both of us he could have the Ladyboy for 3days and me for the rest of the week.
I immediately shot him down and said noway, it's one thing for him to go away and meet up with Ladyboys but I don't want anyone in my home, I don't want to be in a three way relationship, and I don't want to share my boyfriend.
We ended up in an argument and him saying that I've hurt his feelings and that I'm telling him different things.
So I'm asking for advice do you think I'm being unreasonable?
What can I say to my boyfriend to make him understand that it's also hurting my feeling?
Xxx

[luvasiants]

Hello,

My idea is that You are on Your reasons babygirl1. What Your boyfriend expect is a bit selfish and hurting for Your feelings, he should be glad he has a open minded girlfriend about his sexual dreams. Then, guessing that Your place is not full of sexy Thai ladies working as childminder/housekeeper what is the plan? To "import" her from Thailand? It is complicated for immigration, visa, invitation etc. etc. A Lady that is a professional childminder/housekeeper in daytime and available to fullfill his fantasies at night time? Well, that is pratically impossible: a professional childminder/housekeeper would never accept a situation like this, and if his plan is to hire a bar girl from Bangkok or Pattaya circuit, just give up, You and him will only have problems about their lifestyle and personality. Paradoxically it is easier (and cheaper) to let him to travel 1 week in Thailand, to tour around Cascade, Temptation and Cockatoo, and enjoy it, then he will come back, and back to his normal life. Of course only if You agree to that and totally trust him, because the nightlife scenario in Bangkok or in Pattaya can be captivating, but it is a different topic. Better solution: he book an escort as first timer, try it and see what happens. Who knows? Maybe his fantasy not fit the reality.
Just my opinion.

Regards.