I'm dating a transgendered girl (sex question)

[benwest]

Hi,
I'm new to the forum and am here to seek advice. I'm currently dating a beautiful girl. We met at work. I never knew she was transgendered until our second date when she told me. She's very feminine and is pre-op. I had never even thought that I would ever date a transgendered person, however she is beautiful, sweet and my heart beats faster whenever I'm with her. I really think I'm falling for her.
We have dated for four months. We only got sexually active in the last two weeks. Not because I'm not turned on by her but she wanted to take it slow. So far she has performed oral sex on me twice. I got her top off the last time but she kept her jeans on. I would like to go further and am a bit worried about it.
I know where I can stick it but how should I treat her penis? She never mentioned any preference and I'm afraid to ask. Should I ignore it or play with it? I'm not even sure how I would react. I have never even seen a real erect penis other than mine. However I have been browsing for transgendered pictures and have found them quite arousing.
Thanks for any advice. I know this is probably a dumb posting but I really like her and would like her to have a great time the first time we make love. Right now I feel like a heel as I got the two best blowjobs of my life from her but did not do anything for her at all.

[GroobyKrissy]

I know it may be awkward but have you just asked her what her preference is? That may be a good place to start...

[transjen]

Every Tgirl is differnt, I never liked having my penis touched and played with and many a time i left my panties on. But there are Tgirls out there who like having there penis touched and played with so you need to ask her

Jerseygirl Jen

[benwest]

I know that's probably the best thing to do but I'm not sure how to put it without making her feel like I'm afraid to have sex with her. I know she's very concerned that I might be turned off by her penis although I have tried to assure her that won't happen.

How are most transgendered women? Do they like their partners to touch their penis or to ignore it? Or is it really an individual preference? I know every guy can't get enough of their lovers playing with it.

[benwest]

Jen, you know how guys are when it comes to asking for directions . She's got a great ass, so I'm really hoping she won't want to keep her panties on.

On more thing, I always assumed every trans woman would be into anal. Would this be incorrect?

[Brock Samson]

You need to put your fears aside. You have to communicate with her what she likes and dislikes. Communication is critical in any relationship. Have a few drinks one night, get loosened up, and talk with her about what she wants.

[EdwardSinclair]

Just know you are a lucky guy, many would like to be in your position!
I know I would... having said that, I give for what people have already said in the previous posts.

The best way to go is to be open about your feelings. Every relationship is different, people have different preferences, you won't find your answer in this thread, when the person that holds the answers is the one next to you... (Lucky !!)

[GroobyKrissy]

Originally Posted by benwest

On more thing, I always assumed every trans woman would be into anal. Would this be incorrect?

I would say, Yes, incorrect. Like everyone else is saying, sex is a very personal thing. What one person loves will drive someone else nuts (and not in a good way). Best to sit down, pop open a nice bottle of wine, and discuss...

Good luck!

[JodieTs]

Talk about it.
My boyfriend did openly, gently asking about my likes & dislikes.

I'm an escort but a lot of what I do,
I'm not into.
My man wants to push my right buttons;
asking what these are, is a good starting place.

Lots of us love our cocks being played with, & lots hate that...
Ask, ask, ask.

[sphynx52]

but i have recently become very atracted to them.....

what do I do?

you seem so happy having a relationship with her....

anyone got advice or wanna chat?

[Bionca]

The answers from the gals have been exactly right, and worth taking to heart. All relationships are based on communication, and talking about sex in important.

Alternately, you can simply "listen" to her body language during sex. A good lover tries to understand what their partner is liking or not liking during the acts. The clues may be subtle, but they will be there.

For trans women sex can be charged issue, so assuring her that you care and only want to make her as happy as she makes you will likely put her at ease enough that the two of you can have good sex and a healthy relationship.

[sowman]

i was in a similar situation and i just asked her. she was very good about explaining it.

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by benwest

Jen, you know how guys are when it comes to asking for directions . She's got a great ass, so I'm really hoping she won't want to keep her panties on.

On more thing, I always assumed every trans woman would be into anal. Would this be incorrect?

She seems to be taking the lead. And you seem to be okay with that. So let it go.:D

A lasting relationship will be built on all the other things you do together.
So don't fuck it up. Enjoy what the two of you enjoy. Pay close attention. She won't let you get "out of bounds".
and ya know? you can always ask. ( I know, that's not a guy thing.)

as for anal, yes, you are wrong. she'll tell you whatever.