interested in shemales or not

[Imconfused]

Ok I have a question. After finding out my BF had some shemale dvds and him making up excuses on why he had them. He kind of just opened up to me about it. He said the only reason he had shemale dvds or watched shemale dvds was because they are "different". He says that's as far as his interest in them go. He even went as far as calling them freaks. (though I disagree) Also he was trying to "defend" shemales in away by saying that when you look at them, like their arse, belly, legs, chest etc, there is no way it's a man except the penis. He said they are woman with penises. but I was wondering and I know you all can't think like him but I know that when a person often ridicules someone or something they 1 either hate that specific thing or 2 they in fact like it but use the ridicule to off set their interest in it so not to be thought of in a bad way. It is obvious that he has SOME kind of interest in shemales otherwise he wouldn't have the dvds. So my question is. does he have interest in shemales?
One time we were in the middle of foreplay and I got between his legs and took his cock in my hands but brought myself up to him so close it looked as if his cock was "mine" and he pulled his legs up like he wanted me to F$%# his arse. Well he then asked me to you a strap on. Even when we have sex he tries to get me to put my finger in him. There has to be more of an interest in it then just they are different. Do you agree?????????

[twistedone]

Lets try this again, the forum logged me off while I was posting this.

Personally, from what I'm reading of your post, your BF could be blowin smoke up your tail. A couple of possible reasons for this....

1. Its a passing fantasy, and nothing really to be concerned about.

2. He may be very afraid of your reaction if the truth were known. He might be afraid you might reject him, or think of him of a lessor person. Have you ever thought about how you would handle it if he did tell the truth? Would you accept it, or reject him for it?

These are just speculation. I can only speak for myself. Strictly speaking, I sexually attracted to the TS or shemale. But this DOES NOT automatically make me gay or bisexual. I'm also sexually attracted to females. I have no sexual attraction for men whatsoever.

I've lived a long time pursuing the straight or vanilla life, strictly hetro, and found it lacking. I decided to pursue a more kinky lifestyle. This doesn't mean I said "to hell with everything and everyone" and when out and pursued it. I had to act responsibly for my welfare, and for the welfare of others. I also had to be sensitive to others feelings.

Some people make thing of the TS or TG as a weirdo, but in actuality, they are individuals that have decided what will make them happy in life and pursued it. A lot of people think they know what will make them happy and only talk about it. The TS and TG took it one step further, they "walked their talk". I respect that, and have decided to make it my own creed.

Think it over, talk with him about it more, don't be threatening, however if you do decide you can't accept it, and leaving the relationship might be the best thing, strive to do it on a friendly basis. If you decide to accept it, then decide what your limits will be, discuss them, agree to them, and see what you can do to even participate in things that might increase your levels of enjoyment.

Look forward to hearing more from you.

[Imconfused]

Im more then ok if he has more then a "they are different" interest in shemales. Obviously they turn him on if he is wacking off to them.
However the only problem I would have is if he wants to be with one cause well he should have decided that before being with me. I love him so much, to be honest with you I wouldn't care if he came to me and told me he was a crossdresser. I love him and accept anything and everything about him.

[Imconfused]

One more thing, I told him I wanted to watch him masterbate while watching pornos and he said he didn't have any dvd's cause he got rid of them. Well when we went online that's what he picked out shemale dvds. How can I actually tell him that I am ok with his interest? Other then what person who wasnt ok with his interest would let him pick that out?

[vwf pervert]

My view is this... Your BF is like me in all the ways you explained.... I am fortunate enough to have a wife with am open mind on freaky non boring sex. So when I bought home a DVD with tgirls she got excited and watched with me....

She understands my needs and agrees to fulfil them as I do with hers...

My point being I dont think he will leave you for a Tgirl( I love my wife and would never leave her) so dont worry just try and be more open minded with his needs and he will open up to you about his deepest fantasies!

[belfagar]

I would have to say your BF is still the same BF you had before. The only difference is now you know. Not to begrudge you of your feelings, But alot of this is has been cast out because of your knowledge for his desire for "beautiful" "She-Males". Most "Homo-sexual" men do not find she-males the least bit attractive. They look too much like women. And as far as the penis thing is concerned, I have always believed it to be a way to be connected with something i have, and, am comfortable with. i guess like being on the same page as the she-male (shared desires).

A beautiful "Woman" with a penis how does it get any better.
It's all about relating. I believe.

[russellwu]

belfagar speaks the truth!

Just come up to him one day and show him your own collection of shemale dvds. XD

[briana]

I think your BF is struggling with his attraction to someone with a penis. If he is attracted,, he is attracted and that is that as far as what turns him on. He is in a phase where someone ( you) found out about his tranny attraction and he is uncomfortable-- that cat is out of the bag ( or in this case penis). Hopefully in time he can come to terms with his new attraction in integrate it with you, he needs to realize how lucky he is if your into it to.
I found out of my attraction about a year ago.. it was a shocker at first, now im cool with it. At first I thought I was gay, but then i realized that girls still turn me on to. So no big deal, just one more dessert on the plate!!
Good luck

[Imconfused]

I think eventually he will be open with me. As long as he is with me and only me (physically and emotionally) and is only interested in shemales as far as just watching and not taking his interest any further.Then I am ok with it. After reading what alot of men have said with the same interest. I know that you can be straight and like shemales. i had said a few things when I first found out and if I could take them back I would. I know I can not so I can understand his hesitation in telling me the whole truth